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writes:MOD NOTE: This is 2 posts that were incorporated into one.Hey wel im 20 n my bf of 2yrz is 23. We used to be so close,but i dnt kno wot hapend. Anyway my bf had been acting realy sus 4 a wile n afta proving to a friend that i wasnt paranoid,i went thru hes phone when he was asleep to find ova a hundred porn videos,the porn didnt bother me all that much,it was more the 1s of solo girls playing with themselves. What hurt more was they wer saved to a memory card that he had been hiding. When i confronted him he yelld at me 4 goin thru hes phone. We got over the fight but i became very self concious around him. 3 times of me finding the same stuf over and over,us fighting,and him promising never to do it again,n i found out he had been going on internet dating and sexcam sites wich he denies stil,but with that says he did try to send away to one (only cus i saw the unsent msg in hes outbox cus vodafone wouldnt let it send) because he thought i didnt want him anymore. I hope this is making sence,iv told him how it makes me feel but hes done it 3 times since. My bf hasa pocket pc. And i found burried away in the phones setting files,a file wich contains cookies,some say addresses,and some just have a bunch of letters/numbers. Are the ones with addresses the sites hes visited? Please please help =,(
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (20 December 2009):
 sounds like he has an addiction i say that because if my girl found porn and i realised it made her feel like crap i would honestly dump it all id let her burn it, but your bf is choosing porn over a real girl thats an addiction. personally i think he should be able to watch it but your feelings should come before somthing he can live without.
I feel like suthc a nice guy for agreeing with you cause normally i wouldnt on the porn issue this come sup alot why it bothers women so bad i dont kno im not a woman but i do kno that if a man cares enough about his woman he wll give up porn for her i guess your guy has chosen. any ways good luck i suggest laying off his back about it hes not gonna stop maybe its time for you to date a nice guy hnt*hnt* im jokingg have a good chrstmas
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 December 2009):
The porn isn't as bad as it seems. Nearly all men look at porn, because it provides very easy visual stimulation. If you're looking for a guy who won't look at porn, you'll have a hard time. And you've also learnt a valuable lesson about going through phones. Though you found something you didn't like, there are now major trust issues. However, if he has been on dating sites and sexcam sites, that's a little different. I'd suggest that you're not his number 1 priority. So I'd suggest you think about whether you want to be with him or not. Either way, you need to fix your trust issues as well, because if you go through someone else's phone in the future and find nothing, you might end up hurt. But your current boyfriend doesn't really seem like the guy you're looking for.
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