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*skRosie
writes:My Boyfriend, OB, has been really clingy, and I told him to stop doing things which annoy me. But lately he has become really manipulative and abusive- by trying to stop me having music lessons because I have missed my breaktime, and stop doing choir and band (two things which I really love) because he doesn't want me to do them. Then he gets annoyed when I tell him I'm not going to and he can't control my life.Then the other day he held me down, for five minutes, and wouldn't let me up, and got annoywhen I knee-ed him in the balls, to make him let go of me (Ok, not the most sensible idea, but what else was I supposed to do?) He has also been grabbing hold of my wrists, and really hurting me by doing so- today he crushed my hand. He has also been trying top control my emotions by telling me when I should be happy, but he is making me be angry.He has been saying that he cannot do anything without me hurting him for offending me (I have slapped him on previous occasions for doing this)and everyday he has a go at me for this. Over the past few days though we haven't exchanged a word to each other. I don't know whether I should carry on seeing him because we used to get on really well. Should I carry on seeing him or should I dump him? And what should I do coz he is really hurting me, although I haven't got any bruises to show for it?
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reader, melnjy  +, writes (2 April 2009):
Just leave him. The way he treats you is not how a man should treat a woman. You deserve better. You are rather strong-willed, while alll he wants is a submissive little kitten. Personality-wise, both of you are not compatible. I believe that you should end the relationship ASAP,before he does anything serious like hitting you to death or anything.
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reader, pinktink1 +, writes (2 April 2009):
Get out of this relationship, he should never raise a hand to you, dont wait round for the bruise!!!!
He's controlling you by telling you what you can and cant do and its wrong!!!!
Things are only going to get worse so just do it y u can, too many womrn die from domestic violence every year so please get out while you can.
Hope that helps a bit, keep ur chin up and stay safe x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): Please get out why you can I was in an abusive relationship for 8 long and horrible years. Things never go back to the way they were in the begging. One time the man (I use that word loosly) I was dating grabbed me by the hand twisted my wrist until I fell to the ground and he would not let go until I told everybody there that I was his "bitch" he degraded me, hurt me, beat me called me names, made me feel that I could do nothing right. I droped out of college for him so I could buy him a truck, he would not let me dress nice or put on make up. After awhile I could not even visit my family without prior permission. It sounds like you are heading down the same path I was on. Leave him don't look back and move forward and never give up anything that you love because of an abuser. LOVE YOURSELF, before any other, once you love yourself you will find real love. Please don't let him hurt you.
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