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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I've been with my bf almost 2 years. He is very expressive and tells me how much he loves me frequently. He always tells me he wants to get married and be with me forever. Here's the dark side he has a gambling problem always swears he will quit. Spends excessive money. I've caught him in numerous lies. When he goes out he will stay out all night. Which leaves me pondering the thought if he's also cheating now. We've lived together I have moved out because of his gambling addiction and lies. I love him truly. However its as though he's two people. One is caring, and loving. The other is mean and constantly accusatory. He always asks if I'm cheating, talking to men. He has to know all passwords to every account I may have. It bothers me his lack of trust and makes me wonder if he's doing something and shifting blame. Should I stay or should I go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Hi
I agree with Caring Guy.
Also if this man is always accusing you. Its time to see what's behind these accusations. Could be insecurity or because he's out cheating himself. Nonetheless, its not right to make another feel that way.
He gambles and u say its almost 2 years. If he wanted to change he would have done so by now. He's feeding u more lies. Marriage? Like caring guy said how can he marry u when he blows all his money on his gambling. You're second in his life. Its time to think seriously about your future.
If he has to control who your talking to and needs your passwords he doesn't trust u whatsoever. He either has a guilty conscience or is some severe control freak.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 July 2010):
You with a loser who is controlling you and gambling away any real future you can possibly have. He has no trust in you at all, knows all your passwords, he's mean, he's accusing you all the time, and he has this gambling problem which will leave you with nothing in the end. The caring side of him is more of a front, to ensure that you stay. And it's working, because for all these bad points, you've stayed.
This needs to stop, and I think you know it. This guy is utterly worthless. All he offers you is pain. He shows you know future at all. He merely claims he loves you and will marry you. But how? He has no money because he gambles it away.
Don't waste your life in this man. He's just not worth it.
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