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writes: Hi my boyfriend keeps flirting with other girls around me what do i do?
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (7 June 2006):
 If he is trying to draw the attention of other girls in a bid to date them manner, then you need to tell him that its making you feel uncomfortbale and less valued in the relationship. If hes with you he shouldnt really be trying to get the eye from other females. He may not realise he is doing it, so by letting him know he may well understand and see where you are coming from. You need to make sure that its not just friendly banter and hes just being nice, it could be totally harmless and hes just liking some attention and its nothing serious hes just having a mess around. It does depend what he is doing when hes flirting, if he is just talking to them then its not the crime of the century and hes just having fun, if hes very touchy feely, making waves to take things further, then you do indeed need to tell him that you feel awkward and not as special when hes doing this. If he cares for you he will understand and hopefully take steps to try and remedy this.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (7 June 2006):
 I think you are going to have to describe "flirting" because to different people it means different things.
I remember once describing a girl who was talking to a guy I liked as "flirting" with him and my friend was like "no way, she is just talking to him" - the difference being, she was objective where I was worrying "what's going on between them, does he like her, does she like him, does he think she is prettier than me or smarter, does he fancy me?"etc - basically - I was looking at it as a worried, slightly jealous girl who didn't want to think that this guy could be more intererested in her than me, whilst my friend was looking at it as a conversation between two people that knew each other.
So, we need to know if he is just being friendly, being maybe a little too friendly or is going far to far in terms of sexual comments etc.
It's hard to know without the context and what exactly he is saying. For example, if he is just being friendly or joking with a girl who is his mate's sister, then he could just being friendly because he knows her well and have a bit of a brother-sister kind of thing happening. Whilst on the other hand if he is putting the moves on a random girl at a bar whilst you are standing next to him, yes, there is a problem.
Let us know what exactly he is saying and to whom and that will give us a better idea of what the issue is and the best way to solve it.
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