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writes:Hey, my boyfriend of 3 weeks just broke up with me, and i really don't understand why. For the first 2 weeks he was really into me, he was so affectionate, wanted to see me all the time, always wanted me to stay over. We'd talked to each other a lot before we got together like 7 hours a night over instant messaging, we got along so well. Then it seems like after 2 weeks he changed.I got upset one day and then he kind of backed off. He would usually text me 10 times a day randomly and suddenly stopped. He seemed to not want to talk to me when i tried to instant message. I asked him if he wanted to go to the movies with me, he said no had no money, then i found out that the same night i had asked to see him he went to the movies with friends. It hurt, and i decided i should give him space.then he texted me asking what my problem was and why i wasn't talking to him, even though to me, he was the one ignoring me. Then after a week of this, he dumped me, by text. I just don't understand cause he was so into me, telling me he would never hurt me, that he cared about me so much, how he was so lucky...and then in a week he changed his mind? i don't understand. I feel like he moved everything too fast, he wanted everyone to know we were in a relationship not even a week into it, and he just rushed everything. i don't think i did anything wrong...i think he changed but i don't know why, i have the feeling that he felt so strongly for me, so why would he dump me without even really talking to me first. if it helps with answering, he's a little younger than me, and i don't know if he really knew what a relationship should be like
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 The chase is very interesting and fascinating .But once they have captured the prey, it is no more fun and they will want to start a new game again.Your upset was the last straw which broke the camel's back.It was the perfect excuse for him to break off with you.He was like a shooting star.He is too immature and inexperience to stay in a relationship. I am afraid , his love for you was only skin deep and if it was deep in his heart, he would have fought for you and never let you go.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 I know this won't help you a lot because now you feel differently, but 3 weeks ( actually 2 ) is not a relationship yet, it's an embryo of relationship, it's the stage when people gets an overall impression of how things could develop and evaluates if they are interested enough
for making the effort to fit this relationship in their life.
I think your bf has been so elusive and did not break up officially,precisely because he knows he overcommitted himself with words and he knows he mislead you into overestimating his interest, so now he feels embarassed and guilty for having been the idiot that he has been.
Don't be too surprised. Words are just words,after all, and before one can take them seriously they have to be backed up by actions. Some people does not necessarily wants to deceive you. It's just that, rather than really feeling the emotion, they just like to ...emote.
I am sure this has a lot to do with his young age and immaturity and not with anything you did or are.
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