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writes:My bf and I have been going out for 2 years, which is pretty much the same or more than all of my friends have been going out with theirs. They are all starting to move in together and thinking bout houses and the future and I'd like to do this too. But my bf refuses to live with me for at least 3 yrs or even think into the future. It's making me really down. Why am I so different? It's not because everyone else is doing it that I want to, I want to do it. It just makes it worse to see everyome else do it. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Well first off, you shouldn't try to compare your relationship based on what your friends relationships like.
Every relationship progresses at a different rate. Though having said that, you should have a serious talk with him about where this relationship is headed. Normally I'm SOO against the "where is this relationship headed" talk, but after two years.... dammit woman, you're entitled to know if you're wasting your time.
It doesn't sound like you've tried to rush this relationships' progress as you're still not living with him after 2 years of dating and you're 22+. Its great to give a guy some time to get used to the idea of commitment, but that doesn't mean you should give him forever to decide while your emotions are on the line and taking the burden of his indecision.
Honest opinion... this relationships progress has stalled. Either he kick starts it and makes at least the commitment to live with you- or you find a guy that's willing to appreciate you as a catch that he absolutely doesn't want to let go.
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