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female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I am 14 and in a almost 4 month relationship with a guy that I like very much, I feel like I love him. Anyways, the reason I am here is because since the beginning of the relationship we we both really liked each other but we're sort of awkward and quiet around each other and the awkwardness is slowly fading away but there still is some present. He never approaches me during school, he'll approach the group of friends I'm talking to and talk to them and ask questions but won't say much (if anything at all) to me. We are very open and talk well over text but in person or in a FaceTime call it's like we don't know what to say. I've asked him about it and he just says he's comfortable with and around me but doesn't know what to say and honestly I feel the same way. I know I want to talk to him but it's not easy to talk to him like it is with my family or friends.I really hate this because he says he likes having me around and wants me to sit with him at lunch, hang out with him and his friends, etc., but when I do come around we don't really talk. I even have to be the one to grab his hand under the table, kiss his cheek, or ask for a hug at school. I really don't want to breakup but I feel like his friends and even total strangers, that he talks to when we go hang out, are more interesting and a higher priority than me. We just show some affection to each other and not say much else... But then he'll text me what he felt. I'm getting worried that texting has ruined an in person connection and I feel as if he's losing interest because now even over text it feels like he's holding back more. He doesn't say I love you much anymore and when I say "I love you" he either disregards it and keeps the conversation going or says "love u 2" and moves on. Even though he was the one to say "I love you" first.The problem is especially present when we enter a rough patch and things aren't going well that night. When this happens I like to make sure I say I love you so that he knows that in a bad time, I still care for him. but when I asked how he felt during a bad time he says he doesn't feel anything special for me, I'm just a normal person, and he doesn't want my affection during and a bit after that time.I'm starting to worry about our relationship and how it is supposed to last the summer and last going to separate high schools like we both have said many time the we want. I really want to know how to improve our talking skills in situations outside of text messages, I also would like to know if I should break up with him or what I should do, I also would like to know your opinion or anything else you feel u should want to tell me. Please help!!! Thanks :)
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reader, Over 50 advice +, writes (11 May 2015):
 He says he doesn't feel anything special for me.You just answered your own question, sound's like you don't have much happiness together. Your wanting a boyfriend that doesn't ignore you no matter who is around and don't settle for less. you already know what kind of guy you want and I don't see this guy filling the order. Go back and read your message and just think about what your wrote your answer is right there.
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