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*TheAlmightyDuckx
writes:My new boyfriend of one month has basically been accused for cheating on me. What can I say? Thought I might of had a nice one but now I beleive I could be wrong. Basically he went to one of his close friends house party I know he drunk alot but he seemed to of been fine as I texted him late at night to check if he was okay. The next day I went to see him and he looked awful, he had a really bad hangover understandably, but I will say he was abit off with me. I didn't for a second think he had cheated on me and I didn't get any sort of gut instinct (as I have in the past) apart from hungover he seemed fine. He stayed at mine that night and apart from being extremely tired everything was normal. He had been being abit off with me before he even went to the party but I know he had alot on his plate due to a close friend facing prision. Anyway everything was okay untill the next day, when I wanted to go out, he was for the first time ever very stubborn and just didn't want to go out at all, when we finally got out of the house it seemed he made a be-line to get straight home which I did find odd even though he hadn't been feeling well. When I next saw him he was fine, a little grumpy but yeah nothing odd or out of the ordinary. Now I haven't seen him since tueday, and compared to seeing him almost every day it has seemed strange. I have felt a little like he has been avoiding me but after all he has been at college and this is the first week back and I understand hes been tired and as he lives a town away from me getting down here is exhausting for anyone. Today a girl i knew vaguely basically said the her friend had kissed him at this party. This friend of hers didn't know he had a girlfriend and I know for a fact she was at the party. I've already asked my boyfriend and hes determined to tell me it isn't true, he hasn't protested to much which is a good sign, and he has said he doesn't even know who she is. He understands why i'm doing this however he seems a little irrated at the fact I haven't beleived him straight away. This has come as a huge shock to me, because I was convinced he absoultly adored me (don't want to sound arrogant) I can't fault him so far, and he litterally is my idea of perfect. So for me I don't know what to beleive. I received some strange messages a couple of days ago on an anonymous site telling me that he was easily led astray by girls and I should be careful, he once again has told me that it isn't true, and to be honest alot of people have told me different things about him simply because they are not his biggest fans, so I have learnt to really just not listen to them as all they have to say about him is negative. Anyway from what i've said any opinions? I've asked the girl and I am still waiting for a reply but now it will be her word against his, and I just want to know from what I have written does this sound like it may be true? Or could it just be people making rumours up about him again? Please help :(
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (11 January 2013):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question I did plan to stay single for alot longer than I did, and I do know that I have a tendancy to rush into things. And I guess it is a lesson that I am going to have to learn as I get older.
I do worry about how quickly things progress with me, but you see I acutally this time tryed to takes things slow, and I can say it was him who decided to speed them up with the whole "i love you"'s blah blah blah.
Things carried on untill late into the night with the whole cheating thing, he in all honesty didn't have much to say for himself, and was more focused on what the girls reply was.
She replied this morning and was very apolygetic but did say she didn't know he had a girlfriend at all. So in all fairness, she isn't in the wrong here.
We aren't age accurate he is one year older than me, hes 16 and I am 15.
He seemed to come across as angry and irrated at me through text, but when I spoke to him on the phone he seemed upset and more or less worried that he was infact going to lose me, he first just said he was worried about me, and that he didn't do anything and he loved me and I was perfect. He didn't seem guilty, he just seemed tired with it all, or emotionally drained is more the words. He was fine with me last night.
But now its gone back to him being off again, as this morning I woke up to texts irrated at the fact I hadn't replied to him, when I did eventually reply, he didn't reply back, I will admit I am now starting to wonder if his jeckle & hyde personality is what i'm looking for.
And I do agree it seems awfully strange how he has denied litterally everything that has been said about him, surely some rumours can be true...
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (11 January 2013):
First of all, is your age accurate?
Second, a month isn't a lot of time to become totally committed... that's still the dating phase.
Third when someone is denying something, anger is a good sign. It upsets people to be accused of something they didn't do. Someone who's lying will usually plead with you to believe them.
That being said he may have blacked out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2013): Iv got to be honest love this sounds so simular to a situation I was in with a boyfriend when I was 17 that its scary. I chose to believe him and it didnt turn out well, it turns out he was cheating and he just kept cheating and lying and making out that others were just out to get him and were making things up. Im not saying that because of this, that means ur boyfriend is lying but im saying it sounds suspicious to me and iv known my fair share of cheaters. You are young and its only a month in so far. In all honesty If he keeps acting funny/off with you I would end things with him. I know that sounds really awful and its hard to leave someone when u hav feelings for them, but if I could have gone back and given my teenage self some advice I would have said just that. Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2013): Iv got to be honest love this sounds so simular to a situation I was in with a boyfriend when I was 17 that its scary. I chose to believe him and it didnt turn out well, it turns out he was cheating and he just kept cheating and lying and making out that others were just out to get him and were making things up. Im not saying that because of this, that means ur boyfriend is lying but im saying it sounds suspicious to me and iv known my fair share of cheaters. You are young and its only a month in so far. In all honesty If he keeps acting funny/off with you I would end things with him. I know that sounds really awful and its hard to leave someone when u hav feelings for them, but if I could have gone back and given my teenage self some advice I would have said just that. Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2013): my boyfriend is offtern very grumpy after partys due to lack of sleep i think he sounds like he isnt cheating on you just a bit busy with his own life. which is fair enough but if you are feeling slightly regected tell him !
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