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writes: what to do when the man of 6yrs. cheats on me with a girl that i met through my brother,and decides to have his child. we have a family together and i catch myself throwing this situaion in his face, which really isn't proving anything. he has no contact with the mother or the child. he sends monthly payments for the child. this is hard for me to deal with. i'm not sure if i can except this or not? the child is almost a year old. what's so bad about this is that this girl was welcomed into my home, by me, and i invited her to my baby shower, in which see attended. about 4wks later, she becomes pregnant. i didn't find out her being pregnant until she was 8 months pregnant, and i found this out by word of another person. he never had the balls to tell me. not sure what to do. how can i deal with a messed up situation like this. please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anastasia +, writes (14 May 2006):
You must be incredibly forgiving, I would never have put up with that situation and would have finished it. If you are not sure you can ever trust him again you may be better off with out him. That fact that he cheated on you was bad enough, but he didnt own up and didnt have the common sense to check if she was on the pill or insist on a condom just tops it all off really. It shows how iresponsible he is.
The best way to deal with this mess is to decide if you could ever be happy again with him and if not get out as if you are unhappy your child will probably pick up on it and be unhappy too.
Hope this is of help
Amelie
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reader, petal +, writes (11 May 2006):
if he didnt have the guts to tell you he is not worthy of you. it shows he has no respect for you and is inconsiderate to your feelings. if you had not found out from someone else he probably would have never had told you! personaly i would split up with him. you deserve more from a partner!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2006): well you need to have a serious talk with him, love needs to be cherished and i don't think her is doing that! sit down and talk to him it might be hard but it has to be done!
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