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writes:my boyfriend made another facebook account hidden from me and the cover photo was a picture with this girl whom i do not know. i accidentally saw their pictures on july 2 2014 and i confronted him but he said that its not what i think thats why i decided to ask the girl..she said that my boyfriend was her boyfriend and she is pregnant. i ask him to choose and he said that he cannot leave the girl for the meantime since her pregnancy was quite dangerous. he said that he was sorry and ask me to give him a chance to fix the mess he made. i ask for an explanation and he said that he met this girl on facebook march 2014 and courted her for fun. they ve been in a relationship on may 8 2014 but personally meet on june 2 and had sex. they meet again june 20 and had sex again. but now he is not sure if the baby is his thats why he is pulling away from the girl. and said that he is starting to fix the mess that he made. he also deactivated the facebook account that he temporarily made to prove to me that he wants to fix our relationship. i love him so much that i think i cannot live without him in my life. is it possible that the baby`s father is my boyfriend if they had sex on june 2 and june 20 only, and the last period of the girl is may 16-20? i have 3 things in my mind right now (1). move on and start all over again (2). give him a chance if the baby is not his because this is the first time he cheated and i think he deserve one last chance though i wouldnt give him a chance if the baby is his because our life would be complicated with the mother and his baby around (3). give him a chance and let him prove himself for a year or two that he is worth another chance. and also to test him if he can now be faithful to me. if he was able to that then i will marry him. what do you think is the best thing to do? we are in a long distance relationship.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 If there was no kid, I would say give her chance. But since your BF had unprotected sex, (risk giving you a disease) and is likely the father, I suggest you move on. He lived a double life and hurt you and you risk once the baby is born that they bond as a family and you will be the outsider. As hard as its on you move on.
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reader, AnnaSalenaz  +, writes (16 August 2014):
Honestly if it were me I would leave him. He cheated on you, maybe it'll just be that one time thing but who knows. If you stay with him after he cheated it's likr your telling him it's okay (in a way). I have a friend who has cheated on his girlfriend numerous times and she found out and she has stayed with him and guess what, he's continued to cheat on her.
Honestly you deserve someone better.
Good luck
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reader, Behavioural Analysis  +, writes (16 August 2014):
 I think you're over complicating this. Answer these questions:
Do you want to be with him?
You can't test him, you have to either trust him or not. Do you trust him still?
If you forgive him, you have to start fresh like it never happened. Can you?
Can you wait until the baby is born to find out if he's the father and then leave him if he is? By then, you'd be much more attached to him.
How did you "accidentally" come across his hidden Facebook page?
Personally, I think you should move on, start all over again (as a single woman) and find a local guy, who you can spend lots of time with in person, after a few months of being single. Don't rush anything.
The reason I don't think you should stay with him is because he created a whole different Facebook JUST for him to cheat. He planned it, it didn't just happen on a drunk night out.
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (16 August 2014):
Sorry to be blunt but just leave him.
Staying with him is going to be a headache 1) if the baby ends up being he's you will be in a horrible position and recent him for things . 2) He has cheated this will take you a long time to trust him.
You deserve to love somebody that wont get you in this predicament .
good luck
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