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writes:I need help! I got a phone call last week from my boyfriend of 7 years, and he was having sex. I couldnt make myself hang up because i had to know who it was. I found out that it was this slutty girl from our work. Luckily i am in washington visiting family. He wouldnt have ever told me and i would have went back home not knowing a thing. I dont understand why he did it, we were very happy and always had fun together. we have a three year old son, and he has been asking to go home to see his dad. My boyfriend is a good dad and i thought, a good boyfriend. After that day he was very upset because i told him he lost his family and would never go back to him. i also told him that i was going to get revenge. Two days ago i got my revenge and told him about it yesterday. he was very upset and angry with me. Now that ive "made it even" he expects me to come back and make our family work. And when i tell him that im still hurt and dont know if i can go back yet, he says he wont wait for me. I want my life back the way it was before i left on vacation, and am very sad. I want to go back and be happy again, and think i can, but i will feel like a stupid girl, and he wont learn his lesson. what should i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): I dont think that's the first time he has cheated on you.he sounds like he's been fooling around.and plus the revenge has made it worse.just move on..take a break from the dating scene to avoid rebound.but in good time,you'll find a good man who will treat you good and not cheat on you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 May 2010):
Sorry, but by getting 'revenge', you've done nothing but make it worse. He cheated, yes. But do you really think that a man who cheats is going to learn a lesson? This is why revenge sex doesn't work. All that has happened is you feel worse about it. You can be sure that he will never let it go. This is over. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2010): I think that you are angry and confused and that you need to take some time out to think about what you NEED! Not what you want! Revenge sex is a little childish in my books..but you did it! Your boyfriend sounds like he is not really sorry! Whats this about "he won't wait for you!" He cheated and he can't allow you time to deal with this?? I say don't go back... Wait it out! If he really wants to work things out..he will come to you! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2010): You stooped a bit low there to 'get revenge'
I think your relationship is over. Move on.
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