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writes: so i will be 16 in less than a month and my boyfriend is about to be 19 in about 2 months. we have been together for a total of 3 months now, but we had been hanging out as friends for the last year. now that we have been together, he is more and more dominant and aggressive with me. we have sex almost everyday, usually more than once a day, and he is always rough. he likes to slap me and scream at me, call me names, and tell me what to do for him. this progresses so much to the point where i am crying, but he just cant stop himself! ive talked to him about it but he says "its just the way i like to have sex. its good to me". but lately, it has come outside the bedroom. i stay at his house a lot, usually every weekend, and he has me get up at a certain time, do simple chores (i.e laundry, dishes) just easy stuff that i really dont mind doing for him, but i would be even more willing if he would just ask nicely. now, every time we fight, he gets physical with me. he doesnt punch or hit he just gets in my face and screams and will shake me. it has recently been brought to my attention that he is using steroids. this was told to me by a mutual friend and he says he is absolutely positive that he is doing this. could this be the reason why he is becoming so aggressive? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
Girl! Wake up! This guy is an abusive, woman beating maniac! Maybe the steroids are causing it. But that's not the point. If you allow yourself to be hit adn treated this way, you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life. He won't change. Dump him and go and find a good guy instead. Hard at first, yes. But it's better than being beaten and hurt at such a young age with some much of life to live. Never let a guy treat you this way. Ever. Get rid of him before he really hurts you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): To be honest, if steroids are the reason or not, this realationship is not healthy for you and not safe. He should not be hurting you, and even if you consent to sexual things, it's still against the law because of the age difference. Leaving that aside, he still should not be doing things that you don't enjoy either, that's not fair to you. It sounds like he's using you, and it seems that the abuse is not going to get better, only worse.Please leave before something worse happens. Yes, steroid use can definitely contribute to mood and reactions, but it's still not an acceptable excuse for his actions. Please consider what I've said, you deserve to be treated better, and I think you know that too, realizing that this isn't right. Please message me if you want to talk more about it or get more advice or anything. Good luck, please keep us updated.
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