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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:The guy I've been dating for 5 months is becoming really distant and I don't know what to do. At first we saw eachother 4 times a week and everything was great. He opened up to me and text or called throughout the day. Now we only see each other once a week and half the time he doesn't answer my calls or text me back. He says that he cares about me a lot and likes me a lot, but he is jaded from his ex wife and is scared. I don't know what this means or why he has pulled so far away from me. I feel like he is hiding things, but don't know for sure. I don't know if I should stay or go. Any advice?
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reader, becks81  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 It's time he clarified exactly what jaded from his ex wife means to him. This is not really a good enough answer in my books what does that mean for you for example in the sense that there's two of you in this relationship. A long chat about what you both want from this relationship is really needed perhaps you need more now from this relationship than him and i dont blame you after all you went into this relationship with a man who at the time was very involved the texting, contact daily etc so why should you settle for less now if you dont want that.
Sometimes after a marriage breakup people can go into something too soon because of many reasons i dont doubt this man doesn't care for you or even love you but the fact he is scared makes me concerned as a stranger even. Perhaps he needs some space and time and most importantly you need to think if you want to give him this or if it will only bring you more pain you have to put yourself first. Dont settle for something in a relationship when its not making you happy. If you love him and he loves you things will eventually work out if not then i;m sure you have someone who can give you all deserve around the corner.
Good luck
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