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writes:Have you ever broken up with someone and had them turn really nasty??? I recently ended it with my bf of 5 years, telling him that I just don't feel the same way I once did. I care deeply for him and do love him, but not in that way anymore. It was very hard but I thought telling him the absolute truth was the best thing to do. Since then I have been looking for a new place to live and he has been in my face, yelling at me that he wants me the F out. I am feeling sick with guilt and blame for myself. This is a side to him I never saw in 5 years. Has this ever happened to anyone else??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This guy is lashing out because he is hurting. The best thing is to move out very very soon, you are a reminder of that hurt and anger. The more he sees you the more he vents. He just needs to calm down and accept the situation in time. He will only move on/control his anger when you are gone. For good.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (31 March 2009):
You've really hurt him so he is going to be angry and quite understandably so.
You have broken the guys heart and given his pride a good kicking too.
He would normally do this nasty outburst on his own or to a friend but since you are there in the line of fire, you are getting the full force of it.
Move onto a friend's sofa till you can find a new place and leave the poor guy to lick his wounds.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): Yes, the break up is too new and feelings are very raw. The guy's heart is breaking and he is covering it up by being angry...that is what guys do, they don't want you seeing them ball their eyes out. Just leave him alone, and don't try to go down to his level while he is there with you.
If you don't want a relationship with him, have the decency to leave him alone until he works through his intense feelings....and if you can't move out right away, stay with family or friend until you can.
I am sorry, I know this is hard for you too, and making you feel terrible....but if you give him some time and a lot of distance, he will probably be able to talk to you again.
So the answer to your question is yes, absolutely.
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reader, Michelle16 +, writes (31 March 2009):
 I've never been in this situation myself but i watched my aunt go through a similar thing so i'll use my mothers advice.If he's not mature enough to appreciate that all your doing is being honest with him and being fair to him to end the relationship rather than stay in it when you don't have the same feelings anymore then he definitely isn't worth your guilt. Also, if you haven't seen this side to him before now what else haven't you seen?You definitely made the right decision.You shouldn't blame yourself at all.You have absolutely nothing to worry about.Relationships end, people change, that's life.He'll get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): Yes breakups show peoples worst emotions especially a scorned man sounds like he just can't except the fact you have dumped him ..thats when men go nutty, listen don't let him make you feel bad tell him "it is what is " not what it was and to move on ...then steer clear asap!
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