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writes:is it wrong for me getting upset that my "fiancee" watches to much porn even after i had told him that it bothers me that he do, he even watches it in front of me when we get in to a argument and even asks me to download his favorites for him because he doesnt have a computer, am i wrong for getting mad?
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (8 January 2012):
 No there's nothing wrong with feeling mad over the whole porn issue, and it's perfectly okay for you to decline to download his porn onto your computer just so he can continue his addiction. Why would he need so much porn when he has a live woman to please him? It's an addiction like drugs or alcohol. Most men do watch porn from time to time, the respectful ones do it privately and we never have to know or feel like we're competing with it.
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reader, AgonyAuntsBeccaandLauren  +, writes (7 January 2012):
 this is bad. he's your fiancee? and watches porn in front of you?! get rid. he sounds like bad news. he might as well be inviting round other women to pleasure him! if he loves you and wants to marry you and you don't like what he's doing then he'd stop, cut down or at least not do it in front of you! he sounds like he's not a very nice guy and if i was you i'd get rid sooner rather than later!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): If he hasnt got a computer and it costs a fortune to buy, then doesnt that make sense?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): you are not wrong here-
first, if he is watching too much porn then he is probably addicted to it.
second- you shouldn't download his porn for him- tell him to get his own computer and do it himself, you shouldn't be involved in helping him do something that upsets you and which is addictive.
third- watching it in front of you after an argument is childish and stupid and intended to upset you, what an ass.
fourth- I agree that if you aren't happy with him watching porn at all then it might be best to break up and find someone who isn't addicted to porn or who doesn't feel the need for it. If he chooses porn over a real sex life and over you then he's not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): Talk to him about this and if u still feel he hasn't change then it's good to end the relationship and move on dear.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 January 2012):
 What's "wrong" about you is that you seem to think that this cad is your "boyfriend"..... I'm SURE you can do MUCH better.....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 January 2012):
 No you're not wrong. I recommend you try to read through the book the porn trap together, it is a great book for helping you both understand each other a bit better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2012): I think its disrespectful and hurtful of him to do it in front of you well knowing you don't like it and it bothers you. Thats emotionally abusive. Then to ask you to download it for him?
How do you not know he is only dating you for your pc? He's being a douche about it all- weak sauce! :P
Its his habit, he provides it. Not you. Tell him to piss off.
But I do have to say, he already makes it evident if he has to choose- you or porn, you know its porn.
I say get rid of him. And yes, find someone who will love, honour, and respect you and realize PORN is not a subsitute for a living, breathing, woman nor will it fulfill a loving adult relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 January 2012):
 would you prefer him to lie to you and pretend he doesn't watch it?
good for him for being honest.
yes you are wrong... this is who he is and this is what he does... IF you don't like it you can end the relationship.
there are men out there that do not watch porn... try to find one of those...
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