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30-35,
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writes:Hello, aunts and uncles! Hope the summer is treating you well, as it sure is treating me splendidly. I've recently fallen in love with a great guy and he is enamored with me (he actually said "I love you" and all that jazz first!). It's been a couple of months since we started dating and things are starting to heat up a bit. However, there is a bit of a problem... As you can see by my age posted up top, I'm young--20 to be exact--and he is 21. We both are poor college students, living at home as we work through school, in an attempt to save money and stay out of debt.Intimacy is sort of a problem because, well, we're never completely alone. My family likes him and doesn't mind him being at the house. They don't even mind us shutting the door and having some time in private, but very, very little is happening as far as sex goes because 1.) I would be mortified if we ever were caught, 2.) I find it just weird to think to myself, "Oh, this feels great... but Mom's downstairs baking...WTF." and 3.) I feel it is a little disrespectful to both parties. I'm an adult now and am experiencing my first true and mature relationship. I have never felt this way about anyone and desire so strongly to show my love, but I don't know what to do. How can I cope with this problem?I know the easy answer is "Wait to have the house to yourself! Duh!" But that is easier said than done. My boyfriend works full time during the summer. It's not like he can just rush over whenever and, besides, I want our venturing into intimacy to be special and meaningful--not just two kids haphazardly racing to bone one another whenever Mom and Dad aren't around. Also, moving in together is not an option. I don't feel ready for that yet, firstly, and I lack the financial means, secondly. So, how have others dealt with this issue? Can you give me some ideas to work around this or ways to be discreet? Any help is much appreciated, loves! Thanks! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): You could always get a hotel room (A nice one of course) for a night or two when he isn't working for you both to have some private time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2011): A good few years ago my ex and I had this problem. But he had some fantastic friends with flats/houses which they were prepared to lend to us for a few hours so we could have some time alone. We were respectful of our friend's houses and never ever went in their bedroom though. Perhaps you could do that?
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