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writes:My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for nearly a year and a half now, we, however have not had sex for about 10 months, he says he is not in the mood, yet i find when i access our pc he has been regualry looking at porn, what is this all about? what would you think if you were in my situation? i am so hurt and insulted by this
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): If you haven't had sex in 10 months....that's pretty bad. you need to ask him about the porn. My boyfriend used to look at porn adn I explained to him it made me sad etc...he still did it because he said he didnt care about the girls and they were just whores it just helped him get off when I wasnt around...so I explained to him that he may not understand why him looking at porn bothers me..and he nay think "shes retarded I dont een compare these girls to her" but the fact of the matter is that it hurts me, whether it makes sence to him or not...so than he stopped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2006): Dazzerg, Why the heck should she run around trying to satisfy him if he is using porn. This type of 'blame the woman' or 'there must be something lacking ' is so bloody typical of men. He is using porn. He is participating in this insidious activity, he should be doing EVERYTHING he can to win her back. If he doesnt she should dump him.
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 I would be hurt and insulted too he isn't wanting sex but he is enjoying porn on a regular basis, you need to talk to him and tell him how you are feeling, tell him it is hurtful that he doesn't want sex yet porn seems to be something he does want.
Maybe you need to look into your relationship and see if there are any problems there maybe things have slipped and just not recovered.
You can get addicted to porn and therefore that effects your normal sex life and maybe you should look into this, it might not be this but better to look into every option there is.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Well I would be hurt and insulted too to be honest. I think you need to be frank and confront this head on and ask him what the problem is in your sex life. Maybe you should ask him about fantasies and develop from there.
Maybe he feels things were routine because its obvious he still has a sex drive. Plan a romantic evening, and try to seduce him. Maybe turn the conversation that way. See how things go from there...
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