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writes:I have a problem dating men most times, because a boy I liked very very much asked me for sex on our second or third date while I keep telling him I liked him but that I preferred knowing them better to see if we could have a relationship and this has caused the boy to feel offended, to move on and not even answer my txt mesagges, I feel really down about this and I don't know if maybe my attitude is to conservative to be 29 but I feel I'll never find the right guy and getting a bit depressed
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reader, Astrid +, writes (17 August 2006):
Astrid is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks very much for your support I feel more relaxed now as I see there is still people who cares about feelings, I am going on a weekend trip to my best friend's house this afternoon as there are many festivals and parties there by the sea these days, I hope I'll come back new and ready to start a newloveAstridAstrid
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reader, Rainee  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 My dear, I commend you on standing your ground. Too many women give in to men these days when it concerns sex.
The only men that can't accept "No" for an answer are a$$holes and rapists. At least you found out early what kind of guy he is. Don't spare him another thought, he is definately not worth it.
The good men are the ones who will wait until you're ready, who care about you think and feel. They are out there, my dear, don't give up!
And remember, everything you endure until you find the right person will make you the better person you need to be, so that you can be perfect for them, too. =)
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Well, if he moved on after denying him sex just after two dates then i guess it is clear what he was after in the first place. You should count yourself lucky for not having sex with him becos i am pretty sure he would have left u.
I dont think your attitude is at all conservative. I have been going out with my boyfriend now for since december last year and we havent had sex and i just turned 31 years.I love him to death and his patience to me is what really set me on. I am not indicating that u should emulate me in any way as we are two different individuals but you should set your priorities and stick with them regardless of what any one says.
Everyone has an idea what they are looking for in a relationship and what they want. For me rushing into sex will prevent one from really getting to know the person.Others feel that sexual chemistry is important for them. Whilst i am not judging anyone i can let u know that u are alone on you own regard becos alot of people set a duration for themselves. Some of my friends even give themselves a certain time period before considering sex with a guy they are dating.
Dont let what happened upset u. He isnt the one for you.You are two different individuals who have different purposes on how and what relationship should be like and if u had gotten urself involved with him u wouldnt have been happy.
Go out and cheer up.Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2006): It looks to me like you made the right choice by not sleeping with him, I'm sure you'd feel much worse right now if you had, and then he'd left you. That is probably what would have happened.
I know its disheartening when you think you like someone and things go this way, but, what has happened has shown this guy for who he really is; a creep who only wants to have sex with women; I doubt he would want to get in to a proper relationship with anyone.
There are plenty of women in your situation who end up sleeping with many dozens, even hundreds of guys because they "give in" to having sex early on; only to find the man was only interested in one thing. Arn't you glad you arn't one of these women?
Remain strong holding on to your beliefs and don't think you are too conservative because you're not. You are the way you are and this will ultimately serve you well in life... good luck for your future dating ok :)
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reader, seenitdoneit +, writes (15 August 2006):
Boy have you had a narrow escape. I think he would probably have had sex with you and just moved on to the next girl. There are men out there who will be happy to wait until you are ready - lets hope your next date will be one of them
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