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writes:Well tbh I need some advice. Basically what is going on is that I have liked this boy since I first started secondary school with him and he asked me out frequently over the years but I always turned him down because I thought I would only get my heart broken for having a relationship at such a young age. Basically I moved on but in the back of my mind I always have really loved this boy even when this other boys asked me out and there were rumours saying we were going out but there was never anything. Lately he came to me and asked if anything actually happened and i said nothing did and he was like great i could only see us two together. Whenever I talk to him he always flirts and he always sits with me in lessons, and when I always talk to him on msn he always adds loads of kisses on the end of his convos. But when I ask my friends they say that he does that to everyone and thats just the way he is. I am confused cos I thought that he is into me. Then recently my best friend confessed she really loves him and is going to ask him out. Now I am stumped. I can not be horrible to my friend and I love him but I don't want the commitment of having a relationship cos i feel i am too young: I think he would get bored that I would not get intimate and up close, cos I found out my friend snogged him at a party (that i didn't go to) and it really hit hard. It made me realise i like him a LOT. but now I am not sure if he likes me now he says he has moved on but i was talking to him before and he said that he had moved on and he wanted to go out with my friend but then said that he wants to hook up with me when i feel ready:/tbh i think that he is going behind my friends back and will only cause hurt.But then now he said I quote "do you like me,, and i mean, i know weve gone over this beforee and everything, i just wanna know with everything thats happening and occuring, and just looking for a straight answer sorry to spring it on you. well what i wanna know is if you like me, cause like, you know that i like you, and i just wanna know really, cause if you like me and we do give it a go, then great, but if not, and i think that we might have something, ill have to think about other things and people"i am confused and i don't know how to interpret this.PLEASE HELP!
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reader, Hannah101 +, writes (24 December 2009):
Right I can see were your coming from but at the same time I can see that he's playing games with you honey i have been through this myself an to be honest he's not worth it you say you love him but If you truley loved him you'd be together now and you wouldn't be having doubts about him Take my advise he's not worth it you'll only end up getting hurt you know when you truley love someone and when they truley love you. And yes people say follow your heart don't follow your heart follow your head because when you follow your head you always end up on the right side and well when it's comes to your friend she knows what he's like so if she really wants to get hurt then let her but warn her first and DONT let anyone take advantage of you. don't be the one to get hurt good look and hope this advise helps trust me
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reader, paulofessex +, writes (24 December 2009):
 I would put all your cards on the table and be honest with him. Let him know that yes you fancy him, always have and regret not telling him sooner, however you are now aware that your friend is hoping to date him and that there is no way you want to ruin the friendship (shows him you are a loyal person)I would also let your friend know what is happening, perhaps even before leting the guy know because you never know she may step aside and not ask him out.I feel if you're honest with all parties it will mean you don't lose friendships and can be true to yourselfBest wishes
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