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writes: I've known this close friend for some time. Two years ago, we discovered we were highly attracted to each other but we decided not to act upon it because both of us were in a lt relationship at that time. To stop these awkward feelings from growing stronger, we even decided to see each other less frequently and "put the friendship on hold". It really worked. Romantic feelings disappeared, so we told each other, and we just wanted us to be friends again. After that conversation, things went great. For a while. We even became closer.I don't know why it happened, but now these romantic feelings towards him are coming back. I feel trapped. Just telling him about it and putting aside my feelings, like I once did in the past, doesn't seem an option at all. I feel like a made a promise and I would ruin a friendship. What's more: my feelings changed, but I trust him telling the truth when he told me he just saw me as a friend now. What should I do? I can't tell him I don't want to see him for a while, because he'd ask for an explanation... Both of us are in relationships at this moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2005): I would bite the bullet and twll him. The chances are he feels the same way about you. Frienship between opposite sexes often turns to love and the fact that you were friends first is a great foundation for a relationship. You have nothing to lose, you have fought the feelings before but had to deny yourself a real frienship with this person. How fantastic it would be if you could have both
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