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writes:I feel in love with this guy when I was 13, we went to church together and was boy friend and girl friends until we were 16 and he got married to another girl and he broke my heart. I meet another guy in feb and he ask me to marrie him in may and we got married in july we had our first child the following oct. then two yrs later had another child, but while i was preg. with my second child I caught him with sister in the front yard making out, he broke my heart and made me mad,two yrs later i diviorced him and we got back together because i didn't want another man to raise my two sons, now all this time i'm still in love with the first one, wishing we could of worked out, i told my ex husband that when our sons were grown i was gone, then ten yrs later we had another son, now we made it until our three sons were grown and i was gone so we made it for 32 yrs. i got my own place and i got with my first love and we laughed alot and had fun, but then he started telling me what time to go to bed, who i could talk to, when to turn my phone off, where i could and couldn't work, always putting me down, just like my ex husband, which i don't have time to wright a book on all the hurtful things they have done and said to me, but my ex husband found out i wasn't with my first love and he is being so nice, then my first love is who i love but i love my ex also. who should i choose? my first love is who i have always wanted but he drinks alot and my ex has always been understanding and he has good things about him and my first love i'm still in love with. but i look back on all the hurtful things they have said and done i just want to kick both of them out of my life, but it's my heart that keeps holding on. How do I choose or let go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): You need to get away from both of them and just be on your own for a while. They have both treated you very badly, so why would you want to be with either one? Work on having your own life and figuring out what you want to do with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): You made a decision to leave a relationship you started at age 13 because he cheated on you and basically you were both kids and too young for a serious relationship. Then you are married for 32 years and after kids you move out on your own and you have chilishly hung onto a childhood memory and had some fun rekinling things with someone you had something in common with when you were 13.
I think you need to simply grow up and either work on your marriage or divorce and try being on you own for the first time in your 5 decades of life. Perhaps the person you really learn to love is YOU.
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reader, xxmissyxx  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 certainly you dont need your first love.. he's messing you up.. your husband is the father of your sons so thats a lil better.. but still he doesnt treat you properly .. so if you wanna choose one choose ur ex-husband.. but i suggest you find someone better.. and u already have finished ur responsibilities as a mother.. and u dont have anything to worry about.. so live ur life as u want.. :) best of luck and dont take shyt from anyone..
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