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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend broke up just over a month ago because we continually argued, he always flirted with other girls and to the point where I had enough and ended it. I think the saying 'You never know what you've got until its gone' hit him. I asked for a break from communication for a week and he did as i said. A month later he's told me he wants to change, He can't lose me and for the past 2 weeks has done and said everything in his best interest to make me happy, although I cant help but feel irritated with him about the past and we end up arguing.I have another guy friend that we'll call 'Bob'. We have always been good friends and text regurlarly. When i split up with my boyfriend, Bob was always there for me and we spent alot of time together. After 2 weeks, Bob told me he had feelings for me, they had evolved months ago but obviously he kept quiet because I was in a relationship. He hasn't pushed anything now we've broken up because he knows 1- its too soon and 2- me and my ex are still talking. Bob goes above and beyond for me, and always has. When im drunk at 4am in the morning, he gets out of bed and picks me up eventhough he had work at 6am! He takes me wherever I need to go and hes always at the end of the phone. BUT, Bob loves to fight. When he gets drunk, almost everytime, he has a fight. Bad ones too, where theres blood all over him. And If im at home, Im the one going to pick him up and take him home. I love Bob as a friend, and sometimes feel more for him. Sober Bob is amazing, drunk Bob is a nightmare.My ex boyfriend is pinning for me. He crys, he tells me how much he loves me, wants to change and wants us to have a future, together. But he has an attitude from hell when he wants to, He's not the lovey dovey type, But he'll say what he feels. I've given up everything to travel back and forth to him because we live in seperate countries, now he wants me permanently there to start out future.Then Bob has now shared his feelings, and sometimes he makes me feel amazing. He always supports me, I know I can trust him 100% with anything and he's a genuine good guy. But when he's drunk, he thinks hes untouchable and his fighting is going to get him into a whole lot of trouble.Do i pack up my stuff, move and trust that my ex will change and out future will be bliss. Or do i stay at home and see how things go with Bob? They both have great and bad points. Help?
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reader, Black diamond20 +, writes (12 August 2010):
Ask your self this question is bob that way to you cause he wants to be or hes jealous of your relationship i? Remember this break up with someone cause you want to not because u met someone new some times you will regret it and want the exes back ..everyone is nice in the beginning?.ps hope you make a great decision.
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