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writes:I'm in a really weird situation. Back in January a friend of mine (who is also a girl) kissed, it was something I had been interested in trying for a while and when we realized we both had thought about it we decided to try it. It happened more than once and eventually escalated to making out. Eventually it stopped when I met the boy I am currently dating. We've been dating for a few weeks. Now, i think the friend i kissed has feelings for me and obviously so does my boyfriend. And the problem is, I don't feel that attracted to him, I feel like I should be more attracted to him than I am and instead I keep wondering would it be different if I was kissing my friend? Would I like it more? I've had a boyfriend before who i liked very much so I'm not sure if I'm straight or not. Please any advice from anyone whose been in a similar situation is appreciated! Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answer! I'm just so confused :( the problem is I've felt like I wanted to kiss other friends of mine before that are girls...but I've liked guys before obviously. I had a boyfriend last summer who I was absolutely crazy about, we couldn't keep our hands off each other...but now with this boyfriend I have right now I don't feel like kissing him as much and when we do sometimes I get bored. I don't know if its because me and him lack chemistry or if I'm no longer attracted to guys. Just for the record I'm 15.
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reader, Noir_Tattoo1313 +, writes (22 March 2011):
 It sounds almost like homosexuality, but I won't judge that yet! You're still young, and the idea of being a lesbian is somewhat striking to you as a curious idea. It's happened to me too, but I'm pretty sure people are born with homosexuality. Right now could be a phase. I tried watching gay-kissing videos on Youtube a little while ago, and I started to feel scared; I was confusing every "more-than-friend" statement from other girls as liking me. After a while I realized that I liked guys. If you ever feel worried or scared inside about the girl-to-girl thing then you most likely aren't lesbian. I would think that homosexual people would be comfortable with the idea; it's written in their genes. Start limiting contact with the girl. (It will be hard, but it sometimes works.) Talk with her as few times as possible, and just talk about every day things. Spend more time with your boyfriend, and have fun with him. You'll become more attracted to him and realize that it was just a phase. Here's some experiences from me that tag along with what I said earlier: On Facebook, (and after I'd watched a video), a girl I didn't know started talking to me. She kept calling me "babe" and "beautiful" and telling me how nice I was. Another time, a girl commented on a photo of me in a bikini and wrote "hawt." I confused these things with homosexual statements and started wondering what it would be like to kiss them. i now am definitely more interested in guys, but I did find out that the second girl was homo. Just try out what I said, and see what happens. Here's one tip though, if you're not feeling attracted to other girls at school, then you're most likely straight. Good luck!
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