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writes:I dated my husband for 6 years my mother in law was not that bad until we got married 3 years ago she changed to this emotional, bossy woman...she alwyas call my hudband "baby" even tough my husband told her not to...she told my husband to answer her "Yes Mam" whenever we at puplic, she never talks to me about anything instead he pulled my husband aside and complain to him about me, even when we at her house visiting I can hear her complaining to my husband about me putting a plastic bowl in a wrong place in her kitchen, I really hate it when she does this I am my own person she should approach me whenever she got issues with me. Everytine she wants to ask me a question she will call my husband so he can ask me....WTH? We got twins (boy and girl) and this woman rarely ask my husband how they doing...it's always I love you son, your a gift from God son blahhh blahh. Everytime she called my husband would put her on speaker (she didn't know) she vent about me 60% out of the time urggg, i told my husband to tell her I don't appreciate her going behind my back and complain about me to him...she needs to come talk to me like an adult and quit ignoring our kids cause they are her blood too. She called the next day and my husband told her to call me sometimes....she immiadely got aggravated and said "Why?, son I feel like I have to walk in egg shells talking to her" urggg she was on speaker so I stood up and said "funny I feel the same way about you" she got silent and my husband told her she's on speaker everytime she called and she needs to stop talking to him about me she needs to talk to me instead cause its going to creat a problem very soon. He also told her she's not the most important woman is his life anymore she needs to understand he's grown...married with kids, she cried on the phone saying she's going to throw up she rather die right now, she's only 52 still married , she said her kids are abandoning her she's all alone and she wanted to die....my husband told her to read the bible and learn to let go, my husband ignored her phone calls...she done this to herself, now my sister in law kept calling trying to blame me for breaking up their family urggg...we moved to a different State now just to get away from them, I don't know how to get along with this woman I know some ppl say blood comes first but we got kids together they are blood too but she only cares about her grown son...she is the most difficult person ever
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (3 July 2013):
 There's an old saying, "A son is a son till he takes a wife, a daughter's a daughter the rest of her life". I think you’re Mother-In-Law may have this the wrong way round!?Either way, her son is a gift as are your twins to you no matter how old us Mother’s are… When it comes your turn at 52 years, let’s hope we don’t get as kooky (melodramatic) as she :)I think it sad to have moved to a different State just to get away from them; it’s like a bigger wedge exists between you now, perhaps that’s what you both wanted to achieve? Only I believe it creates a harder way to get along with this woman, and his family. It’s like running away temporarily, when the problem still remains after you come back to visit. Geography doesn’t change a thing in the scheme of things, unless you plan never to incorporate them into future family gatherings?While I handle difficult and different people as a living, and M-I-Law quirks etc. is no challenge for me :) I feel since you have a State between you, my advice would sadly be futile… Except too say; ‘enjoy the peace and quiet’ that you have in the meantime, with minimal urggg moments I hope.Take Care – CAA
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2013): First of all, I wanted to say both you and your husband did the right thing.Obviously, her beef with you is she views you as the woman who "took her gift from God" away from her. She's jealous of you, because YOU are the most important woman in his life. And everyone knows jealousy can make people say and do ugly things, hence her talking about you negatively behind your back all the time. Your husband is right, he is a grown man with his own family, and she needs to let go. You two have done all you can at this point, though. Only time will tell if it will have good results. You may have to wait a long time, because it sounds like she is quite stubborn.
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