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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I met a guy who I slept with the first night. I regreted it the next day and didn't think I'd hear from him again. He works 2 weeks on 1 week off and has been texting me, asking me how I am etc and whether I wanted to catch up when he came back.Well I did catch up with him and thought that I would accept that it was just going to be a casual thing.However when does one draw the line between casual and casual and no respect and selfishness. I feel upset and angry and wonder whether I am overreacting or have every right to feel the way I do after the latest events.I agreed to see him and asked if I could stay the night and spend a bit more time with him prior to him going back to work. He agreed.I got a taxi to see him, we had sex and then he wanted to take me home as he said he had to get up early the next day for work. He thought I would be driving over and could drive myself home. I only live 5 minutes away from him but he still insisted that it would be easier if he dropped me home.He also told me that he preferred it when I didn't talk in a joking way. I asked him why he didn't have a girlfriend and he didn't want to talk about it. He did laugh and say that he thought all women were crazy which I thought was a bit off. He also said prior to this catch up when I said that I would like to go see a band that he knew of a few good places we could go to. As it was late during this catch up and he had work the next day I said next time it would be nice to go and see a band. His reply was that he might be busy on his next week off and would prefer not to arrange anything with me, but we would do something. He said to be spontaneous. Anyway he drove me home and asked me if he could come in. I agreed. He wanted me to give him a head job and I thought we would then have sex again but he said he had to go. He agreed it was a shit house thing to do to me and replied that he owed me one and to put one in the bank for next time. He also does not give me oral sex but likes for me to give a lot of oral sex to him.What do the readers think of this man and his actions?I think a booty call is one thing, but feel that this man's actions are disrespectful and selfish. Should I give him the flick or tell him that I would like to go somewhere nice for dinner if he wants to catch up again. If he's not interested that would say to me that he wants it all his way and not interested in communicating to me only in screwing me.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (26 August 2012):
 Hi
He might as well go buy an inflatable doll, he doesnt want conversation,he doesnt want a relationship, he doesnt want to go out for meals,he is probably laughing at how easy he can get sex of any description with you without giving anything back.
Call his bluff, delete his number and ignore the idiot.
Then ask yourself why you were even thinking of seeing him again. Your worth alot more, so value yourself.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 August 2012):
 Sorry, I think he is taking FULL advantage of you not being able to say no.
You don't WANT to be a booty call so STOP being one. Which means next time he calls tell him it isn't working for you, that you were looking for something more then just sex. Delete his number or block it and pick yourself back up.
I think you are one of the kind of girls who think if they sleep with a guy he is going to want more? Am I right? You need to gt that straight in your head, that taking your time getting to know a guy/letting him know you is a way better way of finding a "mate", then trying to "convince" them through sex. NOTHING wrong in wanting sex, or being really attracted physically to a guy, the thing is if you jump in bed the first night, many (not all) guys will assume that you are JUST fine with being a booty call.
Figure out what you WANT/NEED. Put yourself first.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 August 2012):
 Give him the flick. Suggesting nice places to go is wasted on someone who invites himself into your home for a blow job.
Please don't even waste your breath on a dicsussion with this guy. He just isn't worth it and it would look like you cared too much about him. He's dull and common.
Dignified silence is best. Don't contact him and don't respond when he contacts you. If you ever do cross paths, be formal and polite, the way you would a stranger. Act as though you don't even remember him.
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reader, tamperingtampaguy +, writes (25 August 2012):
I think you need to work on your self esteem.
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reader, Abella +, writes (25 August 2012):
 definitely completely disrespectful. And probably incapable of maintaining a mutually considerate loving relationship.
He is treating you like his own living breathing convenient sex provider. Drop him like all the previous gals have. He might call gals crazy. I would call him a waste of space.
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