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30-35,
*essmca
writes:Okay so I have been on birth control for about 4 months and after the first two months I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend a bunch. A condom is not used AT ALL. Do you think I should have less sex, sex with a condom all the time, or just keep having unprotected sex with my boyfriend I've been dating for 4 months? We lost our virginity to each other..
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (1 March 2014):
 The birth control pill (if taken properly) will pretty much protect you against unwanted pregnancy. The % of protection varies depending on which pill you're taking.
It will NOT, however, protect you from any sexually transmitted diseases (STD's).
A condom (again if used correctly) will protect both you and your boyfriend from STD's.
If you KNOW that you're both clear from infections then it's perfectly acceptable not to use a condom.
Please note that just THINKING that you're both clear, not having any symptoms or being told by your fella that he hasn't got anything is NOT GOOD ENOUGH!
Just because you lost your virginity to each other does NOT necessarily mean that you are both clear IF either of you have ever taken part in ANY sexual activity with another partner ie: Oral or Anal Sex with or without protection.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Okay, I don't agree with the answer below me. Because, the birth control pill is only 99% effective IF it's taken close to the SAME time EVERY single day. Now, condom's protect against STD's and can protect you the other 1% from getting pregnant. You need to use a condom, NOT just birth control. Use both.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 As long as you are *certain* that he has never had sex with anyone else, and that he is staying faithful to you, and as long as you use the pill correctly, you should be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Before anyone even makes the decision to have sex, they should know certain, basic things.
For example, always use two types of birth control. You're using the pill, but you need the condom on top of that to be pretty safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): A condom would protect you against pregnancy (if used properly) incase you forgot to take your pill or did not take it properly but ALSO against sexually transmitted infections such as chlamydia,HPV, genital herpes, HIV,.... even though your boyfriend lost his virginity to you does not mean he cannot have sex with someone else and get infected with something and pass it on to you.You guys are young you should be careful. Sex is fun but if comes with great risks attached to it (unwanted pregnancies, diseases,...)I think you are too young for all these responsibilities, but since you are already active please be smart and protect yourself!
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Use a condom just in case. You is for protestion against STDs and a double barrier against pregnancy. The only time you should have unprotected sex is when you are willing and able to accept the responsibility of having a child. Since the pill is about 99% effective, that still leaves the possibility (though slim) of pregnancy.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Dear Jessmca - please, please just make sure that you use your birth control pills the right way - that is take it every day at the same time- to maintain proper hormone levels to be effective. Pregnancy on the pill occurs with improper use oral contraceptive use -
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 May 2010):
 It's not unprotected if you're using a method of birth control! Using a condom and the pill is a little much, just remember to take your pill at the same time every day. Set a phone alarm or something. It's like sunscreen SPF. Using a sunscreen with SPF 15 and SPF 50 doesn't give you SPF 65, it gives you SPF 50. Having sex less won't make you less likely to get pregnant either. The failure rate for the pill is much lower than for condoms. Just relax and remember to take your pill at the same time every day.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (29 May 2010):
 If you're on birth control it's safe to have sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): Condoms prevent infections
Birth control prevents pregnancy
Combine these two together and you'll be having the safest sex possible.
If you have sex without the use of a condom you are more prone to catching nasty infections and some STIs are symptomless - the only way you can tell is by getting tested.
You are also at risk of HIV/AIDs, this is incurable and the best way to prevent this from happening is WEARING A CONDOM
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