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*dico
writes:At this point, I don't know what to do anymore.A bit of background: I'm a 22 year old virgin, a nerd in many areas, afflicted with Bipolar Disorder, have had nothing but failed relationships, and a "Nice Guy". So you can kind of see what my personality is; a genuine odd ball, who can be charming and sarcastic, and deep down cares, maybe too much (I've been stuck in the Friend Zone many times).My relationship's in the past consist with one cheating on me, one using me for my time and my emotions and my money, and 3 giving me the "its not you, its me" or "im afraid i going to hurt you". None of these lasted any more than a month. So with all of this bad luck, or bad choices, my confidence isnt particually high, but i can still bravely put myself out there.Now my problem is that i can't seem to get into a real relations. Women tend to turn me down. I've yet to get past a 2nd date in a long while. I can definately present myself as confident, intellegent guy and I know how to flirt. I've also presented myself as the oddball that I am. I've dated friends, I've dated women I just pick at social events, even at bars, but whatever I try nothing ever works out. Clearly, these results are not helping my depression-side of my Bipolar. Is it that women can feel the "Nice Guy", and are unattracted to that; can women somehow sense my deep down depression or something. Its like I'm getting depressed because I'm getting rejected; likewise I'm getting rejected because I'm depressed. I'm really at my wits end. I'm not ashamed of who I am; I'm a creative, crazy, and witty individual who's also like to clown around once in a while. But really, how much bad luck can one guy suffer before he withers away?Is it the hidden depression that seems to seep out?Are women unattracted to the Nice Guy persona?Please Help Me Out...
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reader, Edico +, writes (31 July 2010):
Edico is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sigh, I really dont like being 'that guy' who tries to bump up his post but i really would like some more opinions. I dont know what to think anymore...
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reader, Edico +, writes (27 July 2010):
Edico is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I am an excellent listener, and very patiant person (if that counts for anything). I hardly make topics about me, i find others much more interesting, but im also not afraid to answer any question asked. And like i said, i can be very charming, so the compliments will come up.
I guess what im asking, is there something about my personality thats a turn off?
I feel like its my fate to never find love and end up alone in the end.
Also, what good is money, if you dont have anyone to enjoy it with.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (27 July 2010):
 Maybe you talk to mutch... you seem like the type of guy that talks alot.. when your on a date dont talk just listen if you get to the awkward silence moment say something that will get her talking about herself... women love to yap it shouldnt be hard. next only be a nice guy to your wife or your mother... all the rest of the women are fair game be a jerk... oh and lie the truth is usually boring so lie alot tell her you spent a year in morocco studying indigenous Moroccan tulips,,, just be sure its a lie you dont have to prove..
another thing give compliments not just about her looks dont do that at all every decent looking chick gets told shes hot multiple times a day every day since they where 13 so compliment her on her style or or her smarts give her compliments she doesnt get often..
you just gotta work on your game but really relationships are overrated... accumulating money is a much more lucrative pursuit
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