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writes:Ok, deep breath.There's this new boy in school (I'm new too) and I'm afraid I've started to really take a liking to him ever since the first day of school. I know this sounds pretty odd, but the first time I've ever saw him, he was staring right back at me. I just knew from that moment that I really want to get to know this guy. The girl next to me asked me if I've seen any cute guys at school yet and I pointed out that guy as discreetly as possibly. Lucky me! He turned around and stared right at me and I probably turned tomato red out of embarrassment! Ever since, he moved from across the room to right next to me in our one and only class together. He's a senior and I'm a junior so we have one lunch together as well. He often stares at me, always without smiling, whether it's from across the cafe, across a courtyard, or from right beside me in class. and I stare at him back, always losing courage to smile or say hello because his stare is so serious. The part of him that I'm severely attracted to is when he's with his friends and laughing and smiling and looking so outgoing and fun to be around. He's not drop dead gorgeous, he's cute. And cute is my type. However, he doesn't talk to girls much so there's no competition.. so far. But even my friends noticed, whenever, he changes completely. I walked by him once in the cafe while he was joking around and being all chatty with his friends and as soon as I pass by with my friends my friend said that the guy went totally silent and put his head down when I passed. And it's true, qhenever he's with his friends he's like this outgoing crazy hilarious animal. haha. Whenever he's around me, and just me actually. He's quiet and shy and timid. And that's fine with me really, it's just that it gets so awkward and I don't believe that part of him is who he really is. Um some of his odd behavior I've noticed: I pass him notes like "hey are you always so quiet? I don't think so :)" and he always gives me dead end answers as if he doesn't really know how or want to talk. He positions his chair really close to mine so that his knee is touching mine during lectures but he doesn't say a word. I always joke around and laugh with my guy friend in the same class and he always stares at us with such an intense look on his face that he might be jealous or protective or just annoyed. (I have no clue..) Whenever I try to strike a conversation with him face to face, he always avoids my eye, or looks at his shoes, or at the wall or at some invisible fairy that I can't see. And he tries to leave the conversation as soon as possible. I've posted this question everywhere, and asked my friends and even his best guy friend. People tell me that he's just shy and intimidated by me. There's nothing really scary about me as I'm like 5'2 haha ^^" and I guess I kinda talk a lot but besides that I should be slightly approachable? Also, some girl he talks to a bit told me that he likes someone. Of course I was a bit heartbroken so I asked who, and the girl gave me this really wierd smile, tried to dodge the answer and finally said, "oh i think it's someone outside school but i really don't know". His bestfriend too always gives me these really wierd smiles whenever I pass by and i barely know him. Are these signs that he told people he might like me or is he mocking me while liking someone else? How can I really get to know the real side of him if he's so shy?Does he maybe like me or is he playing a game with his friends?Should I talk to him and tell him that I want to get to know him better because I like him?or Should I talk to his friends?How do I approach him and show him subtly that I like him without scaring the living daylights out of him?Sorry about all the details and writing and questions. I just really am new to this whole love game thing. I know I'm a junior, but I was a bit of a nerd who didn't really pay attention to guys much in my old school. Now, all of a sudden, I've fallen for this one guy and I'm lost for words and sense! Please help me out ^^" I'm a bit lost haha..Thanks in Advance!Scarlette
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (9 October 2010):
Hi there. Yes his behaviour really does seem to be shyness. Not knowing what to say and feeling awkward.
This girl at your school who said that he likes someone outside of school, because she had a wierd smile then, and wouldn't say, it's a distinct possibility, that that girl is her. Otherwise, she would have said who it was.
If you really want to get to know him, don't beat about the bush and try and coaxe him into saying something. Just walk up to him one day in between classes and simply say - "Hi! How's your day been so far?" Then smile. Something simple like that. Then go from there. Make sure that he's alone when you approach him.
If you both get talking, find out about his interests, hobbies and stuff like that. Don't ask him if he has a girlfriend, that's too intrusive and personal. That's not your business. It will make you appear very pushy, and you don't want that. That sort of talk might push him away altogether.
Just take it slowly, to get to know him and see how it goes. You can't hurry things like that.
Hope it helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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