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writes:It's not that I want to ask a question. I just want someone to listen to how I feel, so I'm sorry if I go on. I just came back from my Bf's friends 21st Birthday houseparty, that he invited me to. I told him that I don't think I should come, so that he could spend more time with his friends and not have me in the way. I would of probably danced with him a little and made new friends but idk what he was thinking. He ended up telling me to come anyway because it would be nice for me to get out and have a good time there. So I went... called him, he was drunk saying hurry up, tell the taxi because its got really good, you should be here now. Call me when you're in the taxi. I love you. My taxi didn;t come for ages, so I ordered a more expensive one to get there quicker. So I called him when I was there, I waited outside for 20 mins because I was too shy to walk in plus I don;t drink so i felt a bit nervous to go in on my own. He wouldnt pick up, eventually plucked up the courage somehow and went in. Found out he was wasted in his room, his friends told me hes out of it, leave him to sleep til later. So I did. Went a made a few friends and had a laugh :) went to see him because I was worried he was on his own, we were fine talking but then he started getting rude about why Id come, saying I didnt get invited, and the reason he drank is because Im so annoying hes had enough of me. Loads of heartless stuff. Told me I can;t stay, so I booked a taxi, and he was keen to tell his best friend that came in that he just broke up with me. I felt embaressed as everyone found out after a while that we were together. I was planning to walk home, but I have recently been to the doctors and in the process of getting diagnosed for ms, so my vision is so weak, my coordination is still effected, even though the relapse of it is wearing off. So he knew I was struggling anyway. But everytime I tried to talk to him he said he didn;t care. Idk if he was still quite drunk or his bi polar had kicked in the last few days. On top of this, I'm an emotional wreck atm trying to keep up with uni, not got as many friends as I used to have, living on my own, ill and away from home, he was my closest friend, told him things I never shared with anyone. Although he's Taurus and is stuborn as anything, saying he doesnt care about my feelings anymore or anything. Sorry for how badly I've written this, I can't focus on the screen it;s blurry. I just feel down because he doesn;t appreciate how I;ve tried to be there for him with his bi polarr and nw when I need him most he;s being rude. (I d;nt think thats even the rght word). Now I know the reason why I struggle to get out of bed somedays, my muscles hurt and ache, I feel like I;m being stabbed all over my body and numbness, wakes me up all night, and I get stuck in bed in the mornings. But he said that he's had enough of me being in bed still when he's been up for a while. He doens;t seem to see how much I'm not well. Apart from all this he's usually caring and sweet, ambitious guy but Idk what's got into him, but it's hurting me even more atm because he knows my situation and he said he'd be there for me. Please can someone advice me :'( again I'm so sorry about how it's written.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 December 2013):
 In a few days he might call and claim he doesn't remember breaking up and wanting you back, DON'T do it.
CUT the contact with him, because this will become a pattern. He will want something and if it doesn't happen HIS way, YOU are to be blamed. If he is bipolar and not on any kind of meds (some are even like that ON meds) he is unpredictable. It's like dating a yo-yo.
Focus on YOU, the uni and your health. He isn't helping EITHER.
If you need support I would suggest family and friends and even find yourself a MS support group/board where you can talk, vent with people who are going through the same. And of course there is always Dear Cupid too.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 December 2013):
 I"m married to a man who is alcoholic and probably bi-polar.
I think it's for the best that you allow this break up to continue.... do not ask him to take you back and when he sobers up and begs you to come back, just say no.
trust me, there is no rhyme or reason to their behavior and just when you think you have learned how to avoid their "wrath" when drunk or on a manic high, you find out otherwise.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 December 2013):
I've had two separate relationships with guys who are bipolar (what are the odds, right?). Dump him. It won't get any better, especially if he drinks and/or does drugs. Probably not the answer you're looking for, but some of the turmoil that went on in those relationships...I wouldn't wish upon anyone else. Seriously!
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