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writes:Hi, please see http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-might-have-to-move-away-with-his.html for more info.Basically, my boyfriend has asked me to move in with him. But...I said yes to moving in with him, I want to and have prepared all my clothes etc (bigger things like furniture and electronics will follow in the coming weeks).The problem is that we have had a big arguement, it started as a minor thing but has escalated into a big issue and now he has started saying things like he doesn't think I do want to move in, even though I do. Everything he says, I give my feelings and all I get is 'it's only words'. What on earth do I do now? He will not see me, is he scared that I am actually moving in?The decision I have made so far is to turn up tomorrow as planned with all my stuff and say I am there to move in - and go from there. If i'm told to go away, then i think that is it, its over - if I'm welcomed...I'll move in.What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Sounds to me like he was scared of you moving in and has cold feet. I think he has let you know where he stands already he will not even see you. He is telling you he is not ready for this...
You said he Basiclly asked you to move in! Did he actually ask you out right or was is just part of the conversation.
From the sounds of it he talked about you moving in you decided yes he freaked out, overreacted to a stupid little argument so you would break up.. get it...
Honey I think if you show up on that step with your stuff any chance you had to work this out will fly right out the window. He is freaking out... and I don't think he ment for you to seriously move in... and if he is already as freaked out as i think he is... your showing up is going to make him think your nuts... (guys are quirki like that)
I think you need to back off.... way off and give him some space... you cant force the C-Word from any male... they are a natural oxi-morrons and need to be blended easily...
good luck...
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