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writes:Does anyone else feel like their life sucks after looking at friend's facebook? I received an email from an ex that I hadn't talked to in years. He went on to tell me that he was engaged to a girl that I had met when we were dating (she was a friend of some mutual friend's of ours) and that they are now expecting their first child. WTF...why the hell would he email me to tell me this?I have deleted my profile off of facebook because I just end up feeling jealous and like my life just doesn't measure up. Anyone else feel the same?And really why the hell did he feel a need to email me and tell me this about his life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your feed-back. Armywife...to answer your question, it didn't end well. I had broken up with him and then we got back together. I broke up with him a second time but he was away working so I left him a letter. In my defense he was looking at porn...wouldn't talk to me about it...we got back together and he lied to me about not looking at it and yet he did the entire time we were back together. He called me at x-mas (about six months after we broke up) and I didn't call him back because I was afraid that I would go back with him. I agree that without facebook I would probably never have crossed paths with him again.
I am currently dating a great guy (for about 9 months now)...but he has some committment hang-ups...I just feel like my ex was a shmuck...so how come he is where he is and I'm not there (engaged/married with a baby). I know this is super childish of me!!!! I thought I was over it until the emailed me on facebook to tell my how "great" his life is. AHHHHHHH
I remember meeting the girl he is with now. She had let a guy with her for seven years who never paid rent or contributed to the relationship....so maybe his life isn't great he just found himself a sucker to put up with his bull. I'm sure he is still looking at porn behind her back. It was amazing how quickly he responded to the replies I sent back to him...we are talking about a couple of hours.
I sound like I'm crazy....hahahahaha....
Thank you again for your feedback.
All the best to you and your husband Armywife. I am Canadian...but I think that you and your husband are making a huge sacrifice for your country. May he be safe! God bless you both!
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (24 April 2009):
 sometimes i dont think people tell you stuff to make themselves look better or for you to feel bad - i think he is genuinely happy with his life and jsut felt thst you would be too - we dont all recognise that our lives dont all move at the same pace. facebook and any other internet medium just goes to prove that there is sometimes too much information out there - in actual life you may never have seen this guy again if facebook never existed.dont feel bad, just because he is doing well, who knows, tomorrow you might meet the person who is going to put everything in perspective for you and push your life forward - then it will be you telling the stories on facebook that people dont want to hear but it wont be because you mean harm, itll just be because you are happy.best of luck lisa
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): It depends on the terms over which you broke up. If they were bad, and he was angry, he may have been wanting to let you know that he is happy now and didn't need you to make hiim that way. If they were good terms, and there was no left over anger, then he may have felt that you would actually care and feel happy for him. He was probably wondering how you were doing and was having some trouble letting you go completely from his life, so he did this to intiate things again.
In some ways i feel like I don't measure up: I dropped out of college becaue I decided I wasn't ready for it yet. I deperately want to go back , but don't have the money. I live alone because my husband is gone. I'm pregnant and have nothing important to do because he didn't want me to work and stress myself out...
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I know what i want to be and it's nice to have a goal. One day i'll get back to college and be a teacher. My husband is AMAZING and he's off fighting to defend this country, and to take care of our family. I'm pregnant with the child of the man of my dreams, I don't have to work like mos people do, because he takes care of me.
It depends on how you look at it. Try not to compare youreslf to other people, because there will of course be people who are living how you want to be living, but you just have to count your blessings and strive for somethign better.
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