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writes:Last year I started a part-time job at USPS as a material handler. I'm very timid, often at times people tend to think I'm a teenager and I just started dating a 51 year old guy who's worked for USPS for many years. He lives down the street from my mother's whilst I live closer to my school and our job. To me he's physically attractive and a pleasant gentleman. Well after being sexually deprived for over a year from my last relationship with a hippie, college drop out, I messed up, got drunk and had sex on our first date, 3 times in 1 nite. I had the most amazing intercourse, he made me feel special...told me that I'm cute and have a tight body. I'm not sure what his intentions are but I think he may just be using me for sex. It's difficult because if our family or noisy co-workers see us in public I'm not sure what to do...how should I approach him and ask where I stand in our relationship? I asked him why he approached me and he said because I'm beautiful, dainty, hard-working, intelligent and shy.
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reader, Keeley345  +, writes (12 February 2014):
He may nor may not like you. Only he can tell you that. Ask him straight out how he feels. If he is interested, he'll tell you but if he blows hot and cold....be careful. Older men are no different to younger men when it comes to sex. Although they're much better sexually than their younger compatriots, they do still love and leave women. I know a few older men who are very promiscuous but I'm saying this one is. Just be cautious and if things work out, NO sex until you know what you mean to him. Make it clear to him what YOU want. Sex on a first date with any man is never a good idea. But you'll live and learn.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 February 2014):
 I agree with EWO... NO MORE SEX... and you will not have to ask... you will know soon enough.
also I would not take the 'compliment' that "you are cute and have a tight body" as much. it just means you are young and he's not used to young... by 30 we have saggy...
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (4 February 2014):
 He is double your age and you are yet to achieve certain things in life, before you find out what his intentions, do you know what you want? Seems like there is a problem about going public about the relationship, either he is scared of the consequences or peoples reaction or you are embarrassed to be seen with him? You do not mention feelings or wanting something more permanent. I suggest before you figure out what he wants or how he feels, delve deep into want are you expectations and are you strong to publicly acknowledge this relationship.
If I were you just enjoy the sex and when the novelty wears out move on. You made no promises and you are still young, why saddle yourself with someone that in a few years might just not be everything you wanted. Assume you are 25, in 15 years 40, he will be 65, trust me when I tell you , he will want to sit at home at the TV and you still want to live your life have babies, just think carefully what you want from the relationship.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 February 2014):
 Quit having sex with him and you'll find out whether he really cares about you.
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