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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone, I met this guy who I met through a friend. He is bisexual and so am I. When we are intimate he seems uninterested in penetrating me but yet is willing to do anything else. I find it a bit strange that he does not like touching or going near my woman region. When we make out and stuff its amazing but anything to do with him penetrating me just does not happen. I have cursed at him a couple times about it and still no change. I haven't spoken to him for awhile because he leaves me feeling insecure and frustrated. He tells me he will do it this time, do u think I should give him another chance or should I leave him alone for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2013): You met this guy you say.
I take it you mean you're not in a relationship with him and don't love him. Why are you so bent on having sex with him if he doesn't fulfil your sexual needs?
Meet another guy who will penetrate you.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (8 June 2013):
 Hello, Being bi-sexual is...if I dare say a middle region of you haven't exactly decided what exactly your preference is. Most bi-sexuals evolve from being bi-sexual to choosing a gender to which they are more attracted to. And that's just the basic psychology of things. This choosing may take a short space of time or years. Everyone moves on at a different rate....some people enjoy bi-sexuality and can function on that line.What it sounds like is that he isn't quite comfortable being bi-sexual...or he is now actually finding out that his preference is male. He has already started something with you and obviously cares about you or else he would not even be trying or saying that he promises he will do it next time. Not to take a jab at you or anything, but swearing at him isn't going to help the situation. It will push him away because you are yelling at him to be ready to do something that he isn't ready for. You seem very young and I am assuming the gentleman in question is about your age or so....he is trying to feel his way in discovering what he prefers.Instead of making HIM feel insecure and badly about not doing what YOU want, how about you send him a quick text or note and apologise for being a bit selfish and only seeking your needs to be met. Ask him to meet for a coffee or something to chat....no pressure. When you chat, talk. Ask him truly how he feels about penetration, find something that makes you sexually uncomfortable and explain to him ...."it makes me feel odd when this or that happens"...that way he doesn't seem like the only person who has an issue. Try to get to the root of his fear of it or his reluctance. You're not accusing him or making him feel less of a man, you're just trying to understand him.If in this conversation, you sense or he says outright that things will not work, then leave it at that. We have to respect each other's wishes. If you can be friends....be friends. If you can't, wish him well and then move on.Wishing you well.
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