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writes:I have been in a relationship with my guy for over 8 yrs now..since like school days....but it has always been a long distance relationship..when we started i used to look very pretty and was a very confident girl....n he found this very attractive...it was all good for the first few years...until he was in india...then he went abroad for higher studies...i still was here in india..but we used to be in touch through the internet and he used to call me...my parents knew from the beginning and were pretty understanding...but his didnt know..then i started to gain weight....he started having problem with that..but he has never cheated on me...i went under depression last year..had to take some steroids so gained weight...now the problem is that he is finding this long distance relationship very difficult to manage..he feels now he wants an open relationship..i used be extremely possessive about him..didnt like him goin with girls as friends too...coz he is a very carried away types...if some one is jus nice to him..he is over good to themm...so i had a problem..but i soon understood that i need to give him some space..so i was fine with him goin out with his friends....but now is insisting for an open relationship where in he said that he will date other girls....i am very dependent on him....i have never myself gone out with any other guy...i am not able to take this...he says that either you allow me to be in an open relationship or else maybe we will have to break up...so i agreed...but i am very uneasy with this..he does not pick up my calls most of the times...only when he feels like talkin to me he calls...i dont knw what to do..for my weight i have been goin to the gym since 3 months now...so he is fine with that...what should i do...i am always calling him...n cant stop myself from thinking about him...n then he wud pick up and say "what the fuck!!...why cant u let me be!!"..is this the end....this has been such a long time..is it that we are not meant for each other....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys!!!
i think u made it a lot more easier for me to decide....n do what i thought was almost impossible for me...thanks...i spoke with him today in the evening n told him that im not goin to be available for him all the time....and im not fine with this open relationship thing...he has asked me for some time...
so lets see....thanks i finally took a stand!!
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 Open relationship? Is he serious? Drop this guy before you waste another second with him. If we wants to see other people, let him. But you need to move on. Don't debate this or entertain anymore of his ideas. You seem like an intelligant woman, so make this intelligant decision and drop this loser.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): oh no :(
thats not nice to deal with at all!
personally, i think you should start being a little selfish and think of your own feelings instead of his.. right now its just an open relationship with him dating other girls, what if it gets worse from there? you need to protect yourself from any future pain and be less dependant on him.. create some distance. maybe go out and meet some other guys as well?
hope it works out x0x0x :)
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reader, lola29  +, writes (23 January 2010):
he just asked you if it's okay to cheat on you but still won't hurt ur feelings. Yes it is the end. you need to tell him its over. HE might change his mind about what he's doing since you're gone and ask to come back, but please don't do this. He's just using your affections. Don't be in a situation where you have absolute no control over your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for replying......
perhaps what u r saying is the right thing to do but i dont think i am that strong enuf....ill try to give this a second thought....
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