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writes:i recently got with my boyfriend and he wants to have sex. While talking about it he told me he wanted me to go on top however i have only had sex with my ex boyfriend and he always went on top so i dont know what to do. i'm scared he might be disappointed but i'm too embarressed to tell him. what should i do?
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Ahhh I didn't get the chance to worry in advance. He just guided me in place, and I think he guessed I hadn't done this before as we made eye contact and he nodded.
It can feel advanced, I have to say.
Some men seem to like it; my husband certainly has always preferred this!
Variety in movements and rhythm is a bonus.
Don't feel rushed into this by the way. I think you have to be open minded and ready in a way, it is almost like another first time if that makes any sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): idk just tell him dont be embarresed to tell him the truth if yuo teel him u can get it of your chest and just relax
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): If you're going to be on top, just move how ever feels good to you. Move in a way that is going to get you off, don't worry what feels best to him, cuz if you're enjoying it, he is too. And nothing turns guys on more than when a girl is on top & getting off. Trust me being on top is that way to go..
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (25 April 2007):
 To have sex with the woman on top you straddle the man with your legs on either side of him. You can hold onto his hands for support or the headboard to move up and down. Or you can lean over and put you hands on his chest or on the bed and move back and forth. As he gets more excited he may begin to 'help' by thrusting his pelvis or by grabbing your hips and moving you faster. These are the basic mechanics of the situation. However are you sure you are ready to be sleeping with this young man? Please dont rush into anything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): theres no problem in discussing what you are sure or arent sure in doing. Being in a relationship is learning to trust one another. My boyfriend and I learned new sexual positions all the time together. Sometimes we might not get it right on the first try but eventually it works out because we trust each other.
Also about being on top.... thats my favorite position. Just make sure you are wet, take your time inserting his penis, and just bounce up and down. The best feeling is when you rub your clitoris on his tummy (that's a bonus for us girls.) If you feel good, I guarantee that he willget off by seeing that you are getting turned on. So dont just think of him all the time, focus on yourself as well. Take everything slow and just learn from one another. Have fun :)
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reader, LuckiStar15 +, writes (25 April 2007):
Well first stop stressing, because that won't help and he'll sense it. Second, even if you had done it before every guy is different. My ex loved the way I moved when we had sex with me on top, and my current boyfriend hated it, even though he prefers in general sex with the girl on top.
You need to tell your boyfriend that you want him to guide you, so that you move in a way that he likes. What my current boyfriend did the first few times we had sex with me on top after I stratled him and got him in, was put his hands on my ribs and then helped move me at the speed and rhythm that he liked until I became comfortable and familiar with the way he liked it.
Neither one of you should get upset if its not fantastic the first few times, just like anything else it takes practice.
Hope that helps!
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