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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, my mother really doesnt like him and never really has so, he doesn't stay nights at my house and because she's so controlling I can't stay out of her house all nite. He's been asking me to stay alot lately but I always have to leave. Recently he told me that he needs a break to see if this is where he really wants to be. What should I do? He went back on facebook and everything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Why can't you be like the rest of us who tell our mothers that we are spending the night at a female friend's house?
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (31 January 2010):
DUMP HIM... selfish... Mom is right...
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reader, Toushite +, writes (31 January 2010):
I understand why your mother doesn't like him. It's always like that unless the boy makes a very good impression. You should go talk to him about why he wants to break up. Maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable with your mother not liking him so he made an excuse. Even if he was in it for sex there must have been a reason to be with you for 4 years. Most guys stop trying by the 1st to 2nd year. If he ever does get to sleep over your mom should be smart enough to not let him sleep on the same bed as you. You should go talk with your dad to see what he thinks of it. It's not always the moms choice you know. If you and your mom are mature about the situation and you really love the boy then talk to your mom and ask her what she expect out of him and try not to get your mom mad cause that would make it worst. Tell your mom to not be so controlling and tell her that you have a mind of your own. Make sure that if she really respect you she should respect the one you love with care.
Now about your bf if he doesn't cooperate and he still wants to break up then lets just say it is his lost. He has a girlfriend who loves him very much and I am sure you haven't done anything bad or wrong in the relationship. Make sure you let him know that he is making the wrong mistake. If he really cared he wouldn't be breaking up for the reason of you not being able to stay the night. I am only 14 but i have been through a lot of experience. I always talk to the parents to make sure they know where I am going to take my gf and where she is going to be. He should be able to do that if you guys have been together for 4 years. I am sure he has parents and siblings and they shouldn't be able to let you guys sleep on the same bed. So your mom should know that you wouldn't be having sex that easily and you should know how to control your own body so if he wants sex make sure you guys know what you guys are in for. My opinion is that you guys are not even close in family wise. He needs to get to know your family and be able to talk to them and same for you. You have to see if he has any sexual intentions with you.
The main thing is that you need to get your bf and parents straighten out. He needs to be patient to earn your parents trust and your parents need to learn how to accept that you are growing and that you need your own freedom. Make sure you make the right choices. I have not experienced sex but i know people who did. If you guys are even old enough to have sex and you guys choose to use a condom! Remember condoms are not 100% safe. Even if he uses one u have a chance of pregnancy so remember that it is the way he uses the condom and not just that he has it on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): if he cant agree with your mother than you guys should leave him. all he wanted was sex
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 January 2010):
I can see why your mother doesn't like him now. He wanted a break just because he couldn't sleep over? He was in it for sex and nothing else. That's it. Seriously, this time thank your mother. She saw through him! He was only interested in the sex. Let this one go.
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