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writes:ugh I hate to say but the man ive been datin for almost a year thinks im cheating on him he hacks into my myspace and things and says im looking for sex with other guys which im not and when i go back and read the thing he sees it says nothin about that but he says it does tho we both reread it he still thinks im doing it i do everything for this guy i am 18 and hes 24 and when i moved in with him i grew up fast i take care of his home i made it more homie as u can say he has dinner every night when he comes home i do really treat him good i know he thinks i cheat on him cause everyone he knows has someone whos cheated on him and his mom even did it to his step dad his ex did it to i keep telling him im not i do love him more then anything he has been my rock and 2 dayd ago he said he found something on the computer and i went back to look and what he said was on there there was nothin like that well he ended up breaking up with me and im lost without him tho he does say im having sex with the next door neighbor who is like 60 because our dog runs over there sometimes he says im having sex with him which im not he always drops in at lunch time without me knowing to try and catch me doing something and im not but he still dont trust me i love him and i dont go or do anything without him i guess u can say i have no life lol idk what to do i wanna work this out but one minute he says he does the next he says he has to think about it cause he says he dont want me to hurt him and im not i treat him like a prince i do anything and everything a guy would want in a relationship i do tho we have are fights but there stupid but other then that we have a great relationship and i dont understand if he loved me so much y is he wanting to throw me away ive been waiting for a phone call from him which im scared will never come should i just let it go i dont want to i do love him and we almost had a baby together he is my everything and is more important then any friend anything and i would never hurt him but no matter what i do or what i say he dont believe me should i jsut stop waiting for that call i know will never come or should i call him again causes when i call the first time i told him everything how much i loved him and everything and he said he was done trying im hurt and i feel lost without him he not just my boyfriend he was my best friend the one i wanted to share everything with and i dont want to lose him ever
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (12 November 2009):
 Well all I can say( and I have said it before) is that Social sites such as Myspace and Facebook can be RELATIONSHIP KILLERS.I do know somewhat of your dilemma as well.Although I am a male, the woman I am currently dating is quite a bit younger than me. She is extremely good looking and even though she lists her status as "Complictaed" or "In a relationship" Guys will still PM her and ask her for nude pics, invites to meet or invitations for sex. It does not bother me because we are not exclusive and we agreed on that. But I understand how hard it is for you because I know how hard it can be when you are with someone who is paranoid about getting cheated on.If he is hacking into your account it is more important to him that he regards you as property. And that is not healthy for him OR MORE IMPORTANTLY YOU.It seems that he is wearing on your self esteem as well. But I will tell you that this really is not worth keeping around. You may love him, but at what price? If he is insanely jealous over your Myspace page, god only knows what machinations he is cooking up in his head about you.What's next? Is he going to question you when you go shopping if you are hooking up with the bag boy in the stock room at Walmart?I'm not joking. This is not good...I suggest you run from him because it will only get worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): You're showing your lack of maturity by stating that you're lost without your guy. If you were older you would not state that given the circumstances.
Even though your former boyfriend has had very poor examples of familial trust he should know that not everyone comes out of the same mold because then he would be guilty of the same crime.
You know him and he should know you by now so given his lack of trust you should be glad that he left you because that fear may be a bigger handicap that you would want to deal with throughtout your long life. Some people are fearful to the point that they are control freaks and they control you as though you were a possession. In fact the accusations that he has levelled against you make me think that he is one of these messed up people.
I can bet that he will want to be back with you anytime this week begging forgiveness but know this a control freak is messed up mentally and will want to own you. Your stating that you are making life "homie as u can say he has dinner every night when he comes home i do really treat him good" is indicative of his perfect victim because your placating him and being submissive.
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reader, Waderex +, writes (12 November 2009):
Dump him.
You have value for who you are. Until you find a man who wants you for you, not what you can do for him, you deserve better.
When you look in the mirror and see a person worthy of being loved for who she is, you need to work on self-improvement.
When you look in the mirror and see a woman worthy of being loved for who she is, you are ready for a relationship. Not until then.
God made every person unique and special. Find that person who will slay the dragon, not because you will give hims something but because you are worth it.
Only YOU can set your worth. Find the value in yourself. Those who are worthy of you will find you in the due course of time. Have FAITH. It is hard. That which is worth having is worth the fight. Make him earn your affection, he will treasure it more.
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reader, dailam52 +, writes (12 November 2009):
Hi,
jealousy is a bitch. Trust me, that's exactly how I was with my girlfriend and she left me because of it. And it took that for me to realize that jealousy is a no no. Because if he truly loved you, and know that you love him and only him, then he should be able to trust you. He should know that you could be with 3 other guys by yourself and still come home to him because you love him and wouldn't do something like that to hurt him. If he really loved you then he would trust you. Just because other people around him have been cheated on or whatever, doesn't mean you would do that to him. You're not them so why would he even consider it if there's no proof?
I know it's hard to deal with him breaking up with you, but if he can't trust you, then he's probably not worth being with. Tell him to step into your shoes and ask him how he would feel if he was accused of cheating but he really wasn't. How would he feel? Not so good I bet. If you treat him so well like you say that he does, then why would he even think that you would be with someone else? That wouldn't even make sense.
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