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writes:I have been exclusively seeing someone for about six months now. He treats me well, I see him everyday and talk on the phone with him everyday. We've said we both love each other and things seem to be going well. He told me that a long time ago he had an account on an online dating website. He told me that it's still up because he forgot his username and password it's so old. Recently, a friend of mine was browsing this website to meet someone and I saw my boyfriend's picture. I wasn't alarmed at first because I knew he had a profile/open account. But when we clicked on it just to see what his profile said, I noticed that he was last online a week ago....(the profile states when the user was last online)I asked my bf about this and he said that he hadn't used that account for over a year and he doesn't know why it would say that he had been online recently. I told him that he needed to take the account down. He said he would except he didn't have a password. I told him his username and that he could click the link for a forgotten password. He did that and he took down the account. My boyfriend swears he hasn't been on that site since over a year ago. In fact, he was upset because I had doubted him. He said that my doubt was valid since it is odd and I see his last login date, but he said he was thrown off because he thought I would have believed in him. I told him I do believe him, and I've decided to leave it at that. I haven't brought it up to him again, and I really will try to put it behind me. I do believe he cares for me and I do think he has a strong character and he's very good and respectful to the people in his life. And I do see him everyday. But I guess a part of me still doubts it because it is VERY strange that the site shows his log in date to be last week. Can there really be glitches like that? Could someone have used his account to log in? I don't know....Is this a red flag and should I be concerned? Reply to this Question
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 i do not know if a glitch could have happened but what he really needs to do if he is so not interested in the site is to close his profile down. if he has forgotten his username and password i am sure that he can still gain access coz lots of sites give you the option of 'forgotten your username/password?' and they will email your password to you, he can then login for the last time to close his account down
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (27 June 2011):
 I had an account with an online dating site, and the sites usually do things with the profiles to keep members interested. There's fake profiles and I'm sure the sites adjust when the last time someone was logged on to keep the ladies thinking there are available men who are active on the site.
I wouldn't worry about it so much.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (27 June 2011):
 You have been dating the guy six months and it has been going well, right?
You asked him about it and he took the account down.
Awkward moment, yes.
Sign that all is about to fall apart? No.
Does it really matter if HE poked at his account or if there is some sort of glitch? If he looked, he is not looking now.
If you go looking for trouble you will find it. Let his actions speak to you now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2011): I would be alarmed ONLY if he hadn't agreed to immediately delete the account when you told him how to find his password. The fact that he did that makes it seem like he's on the straight and narrow.
I don't know for a fact how it works, but I guess It's possible that the site did that to make it look like he was more active to attract other people ? Or maybe he did log on and just look - and once you caught him - he realized it's not worth it and deleted it.
I wouldn't worry.
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