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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay me and my boyfriend started dating about 9 weeks ago. He'd come up to the bar where i worked and one day i asked him to hang out and we did all night and we started dating about 2 days later. The first 2 months were perfect, we hung out everyday, he would hang out with my parents and we just acted like we had known eachother for ever. But we hardly ever get alone time because his friends are at his house 24/7 more than i am. But On june 27th my sisters moved out of state to our hometown, I was still undecided if i wanted to go since i originally planned to before i got together with my bf. But i went up there that sunday to help them move in and told him i'd be back sunday. Sunday came around i told him i didn't know if i was coming back, we fought for 3 nights before i finally just came home that sunday. I get back and everything is normal i pick a fight with him 3 times in the next 2 weeks over things i think were justified, (him lying about where he went, him hanging out wth friends and not inviting me etc.) The last one was last saturday and it was BAD. the next day i suggested we stop spending so much time because i new thats what he wanted. Ever since then we have been seeing eachother at least every other day but he hasn't been calling or texting me as much and doesn't call cute names or anything anymore. When we hang out he doesn't come kiss me when i first get there or hug all over me like he used to. It just seems awkward now. And he's lied about where he's been going all though im not 100 percent sure. He never invites me to go out to the bar with him or anything anymore and i'm just getting the feeling that he is about to break up with me.He does still tell me he loves me and call me baby but the past 2 days i noticed when he called instead of saying hey/bye baby he said hey/bye GIRL.What is going? is he really tired of me or am i just being paranoid, I know i over analyze everything but idk i just feel like crap everyday wondering. I have been kind of clingy the past 2 weeks so is there something going on with him or does he really just need some space?
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reader, girlygirl601 +, writes (25 July 2010):
Relationships have different phases. And it makes you wonder if he doesn't want to be with you or if its just a spell. I've found that giving them space is the best thing for both parties.
If you give him his space and he leaves,you've already gotten started on living life without him. If he really cares about you, then the space will make him stop taking you for granted.
My advice would be to make sure not to be too accessible and find things outside of him that can help you take your mind off of it. Trust me, its a win win situation either way you go. :-)
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