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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Life a bitch sometimes hi I've known my best friend for 8 years I've always been there for him for better or worse I'm not gay by the way I have a girlfriend lol but I'm just trying to make a point when I said for better or worse. We were so close like really close I used to give him money,clothes,i paid college for him i mean he was like a son to me even though he's 6 years older than me I never asked for anything not like its something wrong but I rather give instead of taking from people. I took care of his family,I'd done so many things for them especially him I don't regret or complaining about the things I done for him but some people are just fake sometimes friends change,anyway we used to be cool we used to live life to the fullest we always had a rule BROS BEFORE HOES until that girl came into his life and they got married ever since he got married things had changed we don't barely hang out or talk on the phone when I ask him to hang out he said nah I can't my wife want me to be with her tonight every time i asked its always the same crap when i text him he don't text back i mean i'm like a freaking stranger to him ever since he married that girl he be on her shoe 24/7 and i hate her for that, all that bullshit that your wife should always come first is crap why cause when she divorce your ass or dump your ass or any other bad things who in the hell is gonna be there your BEST FRIEND FROM YEARS that's right. You can find a thousand of girls but it's hard to find a loyal and true best friend that's how I see it and believe me I was and will always be that true friend.I hate her she took my best friend away from me my only best friend that i love like a brother and miss him a lot they move to another city so my question is why do friend always put their wife first I understand children and I'm not gonna even argue about it i would do the same my children first but the wife thing i really don't agree with that it should be 50% for her 50% for the friend but in my case since i'm the one who made him it should be 60% for me and 40% for her that's how I see it so anyway let me know what ya'll think let me know if I'm wrong say anything y'all want thank you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Hi well i guess you just have to accept that people move on usually when people get married there first priorety is there wife, they are building a life and a future together and you need to understand that he sees her as his life partner. In saying that yes he should still make time for you and meet up now and again for a drink and a laugh but you hate his wife with a passion and maybe this shows to him and that is why he is being distant. You need to lay of her a bit as its not her fault that her husband is wanting to spend time with her and not you. She has done nothing wrong.
Tell your friend that you feel he is just completely disowning you at the moment and you dont want the friendship to die. You need to understand that he cant go out as much as he used to, but ask him to make some kind of effort even to go out once every week or two with you, maybe you and him and his wife and ur girlfriend could all meet up and go out.
But if he really means so much to you then you should be happy that he has found someone he loves and wants to spend his life with.
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