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writes: Im very confused over my best friend. This boy, I'll call him Allyn, and I have been very close friends for 6 years. We had a serious relationship that lasted for about a year and a half. We broke up about 10 months ago. He's been dating this girl recently who's been treating me like crap. She's screamed in my face, screamed things into my classroom, flipped me off, made snotty comments to me, and told people she 'hates my guts.' I've talked about it with Allyn and I cant understand why he still wants to date this girl when she's treating the person he considers his best friend so horribly. Im not sure what it is. I know she's insanely jealous over me becasue of Allyn's feelings for me still. I on the other hand have a boyfriend who I've been dating for a couple of months now. I dont know what I've done to cause Allyn to allow his girfriend to do ANYTHING to me??? Is he a real friend or not? I dont know what to do. I told him today that if she did anything to me again I couldnt be friends wit hhim if that is the type of person he wants in his life. Well after I told him that I ended up sitting in front of her in an assembly. She of course made a mean comment to me. I told Allyn this and he still did nothing. This girl had even stolen from Allyn. When Allyn and I were dating we wore bracelets with each others name on them. This girl saw my bracelet and stole it from Allyn. He found out about it and finally got it back. She's purposely kissed him in front of me when she could see me and he couldnt. Id ont know why he wants to date this viscious girl???Im really worried about Allyn. This girl yells at him alot and I've seen a drastic change in him from the strong person he used to be. She'll walk around school yellling his name and he just comes like a dog.A few days ago he came to me on the verge of tears and told me he was miserable. I feel like this is my business because they both insist on dragging me into their relationship and because Allyn is someone I love very much (as a friend) and who I would do anything for. How can I help him??? Should I even still be his friend when he's letting his girlfriend treat me this way? Please respond immediantly. Thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank to all who replied on this question. What finally did end up happening what my friend dumping his girlfriend because of how cruel she was to me and how she treated him. Then she sent him horrible texts and phone calls for a few months... Ruined his graduation by texting cruel things. Luckily she stopped doing that a while ago. So I got to keep my friend. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help. It ended up today that his girlfriend told a bunch of people she wanted to beat me up. So I asked her in front of him and while she told me she was going to hit me in the face and insulted me he jsut stood there and did nothing. I called him and talked to him about it which ended wit hhim screaming at me for about ten minutes. So Im pretty sure that friendship is sadly over and ripped apart by his girlfriend and himself. Im sad but oh well I think its better for me if I just try to avoid him and his drama. Its only causing me harm and hurting me because my best friend wont stand up for me. But yeah....
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reader, garcypher  +, writes (18 May 2009):
Sounds like she is a control freak and very jealous. It probably boils down to insecurities, it usually does. He seems scared of being on his own without a girlfriend so can't say no to her. He probably still carries a flame for you and shows it. She wants to take it out on you. Just keep your distance til things blow over and worry about your own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy friend told me that he does wnat to break up with this girl but he is afraid to. I think he might be scared of her. Is there anyway I can help him/?
Oh and I cant kiss my boyfriend in front of her because he doesnt go to the same school as I do. Ive talked about him in front of her before and she is still mean about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): it will not help to abandon a friend when in need talk to your friend.because when u love someone sometimes is hart to accept that he or she is a freak.dont walk away from yourfrien he needs a shoulder and u can offer him that and remind him that he is not alone and he deserve better than what he is receiving.goodluck
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reader, lukec24 +, writes (15 May 2009):
you should stay his friend because you shouldn't let a crazy girl ruin your friendship. you should also have a talk with him when he isn't around either at home or by email or whatever and see how he feels and if he is misreble because of his girlfriend than you should say to him that he needs to break up with her or he will be miserable all his life. finally if she is trying to make you jealous then you should kiss your boyfriend in front of her so that it shows her that your not interested and ignoring what she is doing to make you jealoushope i have help you
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