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*aliMoore
writes:My best friend of 2 and half years told me he loved me a few weeks ago and i was very happy and told him how i felt about him in return.Later on in the conversation he then said he was unsure of his feelings for me and didn't want to say anymore until he was 100% as he didnt want to say something, change his mind and not mean it.A day went by and he said he still didnt know, i was confused as i told him i felt the same, so the feeling was mutual and there wasn't much time in between his two replies.Few more days went by and i confronted him and asked him if he had made his mind up as it was unfair to leave me in the dark not knowing the answer. We had a discussion and i asked him if he meant it when it told me he loved me, as it no longer felt like he did as he then told me he was unsure if he even liked me, he replied strongly and said that he did love me, and didn't want to mess me around and hurt me or ever loose me as a friend.he suggested we started 'seeing' each other, so i accepted and we did, things went well for the first few days, then he didn't talk as much, he suggested we meet up but whenever i brought it up and tried to make arrangements he brushed it off, and didnt make an effort at all.I brought up the meeting up thing multiple times, and after the 3rd i no longer brought it up as he was just being blunt and not trying.We then began to speak less and less, he didnt make anymore effort to even speak, let alone meet up, so much for seeing each other i thought.A week later i confronted him and asked where we stood, because it felt like we werent even friends anymore, we werent speaking and if we did, he was blunt and not talkative.He kept saying he was just confused, and wouldnt answer me, and continued to be blunt so i left it, fed up of feeling like it was all one sided, as he was the one who brought up his feelings...the next day after i confronted him i recieved a text from him asking 'are we were ok?' i replied 'i dont think we are, do you think we're ok?' and he didnt reply i then sent another text and said 'i dont want to fall out, its not worth it, lets just forget it then' and he still didnt reply.Later i was walking home, and he biked past me, he looked straight me and then looked down and continued on his way, ignoring me.That night my friend (which i didnt no at the time) spoke to him asking why he had ignored me, which resulted in him then speaking to me and apologising for ignoring me, it ended in him saying lets be friends again, so we did and he claimed he was relieved he didnt loose me as a friend.its been a week since that talk, and he no longer makes an effort to speak to me, if we do (which is not very often) im the one to begin the conversation with him (so much for being friends) and if/when we talk he is blunt and uninterested in the conversation, not making an effort.he just seems like he no longer cares, and is no longer bothered if he speaks to me now its not going anywhere.. but i find it hard to believe he doesnt care anymore as we've been friends for so long and used to speak everyday up until he told me he loved me and it all went wrong.(Btw this isn't the first time hes told me he wanted to be more than friends, hes told me 6 times in the 2.5 years i've known him!)this is why its even more frustrating that it could of finally gone somewhere, and hes like up and changed his mind! ? why come out and tell me such things like 'i love you' if he wasnt even planning on acting on it?ahh please help, it feels like this has been going on alot longer than it should have.. its even harder as its as if we're not even friends anymore :( what went wrong?please help and thanks in advance ,xo
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Teenage drama apparently is universal from Siberia to the savanna. This guy for some reason is confused out of his mind i dont kno what the problem is i dont kno enough about him or you, whatever it is you cant fix it hes not even letting you help, you seem very patient and caring your trying so hard with this guy but you gotta know when to call it quits that time has come. do your self a favor and move on it wont be easy im sure but you live in sub tropical climate on an exotic continent im sure you can find some way to get your mind off this guy. Let this one go there will be more
Hey good luck i hope you find someone who deserves you.
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