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writes:In the space of a month i have lost 2 out of 4 of my best friends. One betrayed me, the other went out with my other best friends boyfriend and is in love with him so has no time for anyone else. I feel like my world has literally been turned upside down. We did everything together. I have friends but none like the two i lost. I feel so hurt,lonely,lost. I have not got out of my house for 2 and half days, i know i'm being stupid feeling sorry for myself but there is honestly no one for me to call out to, i feel like my life has turned and now im unsure of what to do.I just feel so lonely, what do i do?
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reader, kahlan +, writes (24 August 2009):
 There is no need to feel stupid, if i had lost 1 of my best friends-never mind 2 i'd feel sorry for myself as well.Although it hurts because you will probably miss her, you are well shot of the lassie who betrayed you. With friends like that-who needs enemies?
The friend who is in love will probably begin to spend more time with you again when that 1st flush of lust calms down.I would take her aside and talk to her though.Tell her you know she wants to spend all her time with this guy,thats natural,but that you miss her and could she spend a little time mow and again with you.Remember that there is someone else as you said you had 4 best friends.Unless its the girl who betrayed you,the friend whos boyfriend has left her will need a shoulder to cry on.You should try and make more friends as well.Im not one to talk as i find it hard to meet new folk but is there not somewhere you can go to meet new people.Chin up babes.Kahlan.
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reader, smartnsexy  +, writes (24 August 2009):
Be patient. Your freinds are exploring relationships. They will be back. The same thing happened to me, it took about 3 years, but then my freind came back. She admitted she was not 100% proud of being with this fella and knew I would disapprove. I did not pass judgement. When he returned to his adiction (gambling) and lost 20, 000 of theirs, she admitted I was right. To me it wasdn't about being right or wrong, just having my freind back.
Don't pass judgement, be supportive, and be there when they need you. In the mean time, take up a new hobby, try something JUST FOR YOU! If nothing else it'll be something to talk about... good stories are always valuable.
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