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anonymous
writes:Hey people, Recently we started back school and everything was going great until one of my best friends got a boyfriend.Now all she does is talk about him and text him in class were all becoming very worried about her because shes failing a good few classes she never does her homework and she never has the right books with her for any of the classes.She also has friends out side school which is cool but all of us in school now is getting really annoyed at her because she never stops talking about them and if her and her friends see us wed say hi or wave but they just walk on and ignore us.Back to the boyfriend thought we all dont like him we think hes bad news because hes only 12 and he drinks and smokes and tried to get her in bed and i know for a fact because im in a relationship longer that if someone cares about you he would not make you lose your best friends for one but he would not pressure you in to things like that!!!Any help would be appreciated Thank you XXXXXXXXXX
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 You can't control another person, but you can tell them how you're feeling.
I know how much it sucks when a friend gets a boyfriend or girlfriend and you feel that the friend has turned his/her back on you.
Tell her how much it hurts you when she ignores you and that you miss her friendship. I have a feeling that eventually they will break up and she will come round and apologize. When I was your age, I didn't know how to stick up for myself, but it's important to know how to do that in a controlled manner. Tell her, "You know, I miss you and it hurts my feelings that you don't spend time with me or even acknowledge me anymore!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): I know exactly how you feel, this has happened to me, and it started when we were 15! The couple in question are still together, but me and my friend barely talk anymore. Shes a changed person, and she passed 4 of her GCSE's with a C grade. Im not saying thats a bad grade, but she was predicted much better, and her parents had paid for her to go to a private school. Anyway, she didnt work, texted her bf throughout lessons and didnt revise.I think you should talk to your friend and let her know that this guy is bad news, because HE doesnt care about her studies, so shes gonna have to. She doesnt have to break up with him, just make her see sense. But it is hard. I failed at this one :( hopefully if you start early you may suceed!Good luck xx
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