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writes:Basically I fancy this guy in my class, I have done for a while. 3 weeks ago my best friend told me she also fancied him. I like to keep myself to myself so I hadn't mentioned I liked him but we texted and flirted quite often. He asked her out a week ago. He keeps texting me but I don't reply because I want to be loyal to me friend. Anyway they are going on their first date on Saturday and I'm now jealous and I don't know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2014): I think maybe he liked your friend better. You never let on that you liked him, and she did. If he's only 13, it isn't going to last that long anyway. He has probably flirted with every pretty girl he sees.
The jealousy will go away. It really won't take that long; because nature is very kind to us at your age. We don't take things like this to seriously, before something comes along and steals our attention away from it.
So he likes her and really just wanted to flirt with you. He could have asked you first, right?
Now you know she really isn't much of a friend. Don't let your friend know you're jealous. She might have only agreed to go out with him; because she wanted to take something from you.
That means she isn't much of a friend; and you may not want to be as close to her as you used to be. Don't trust her with your secrets. Spend less time with her.
Talk to other boys, and spend more time with your other friends to get your mind off of it. Don't let her know she hurt you. Just that you don't want to be close friends like before. Good girlfriends don't let boys come between them. She did, knowing you liked him too. You were the better friend and stepped aside. So this is a lesson to be learned about what a true friend is.
Other cute boys will notice you, and only you. I promise you that!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 March 2014):
 I think he friend-zoned you (even with the flirting) and that sucks. I agree that flirting/texting a guy, your best friend is seeing/dating, is not a good idea. I would just ignore them all. If you try and explain WHY you don't want to text any more it can seem odd, specially if he thought you were being friendly/funny and not romantically interested.
As for being jealous, I get that too. But you can hardly be mad at your friend if you never told her how you felt about him and now, it's kind of too late. And.... He seems to be more into her then you, therefore... not a guy for you. You should want a guy who wants you back.
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