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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello, so I have a problem with two friends of mine. Currently I have just started my second semester in college and everything is going fine. While in college I have spent most of my time with these two other friends, one girl and one guy. We are basically a like an inseparable trio and go everywhere together. But during the winter break, we all went back to our respected families, but my two friends happen to live near each other and so during the winter break they have been meeting each other. So my guy friend told me that they did in fact kiss at some point but then a few days later broke of this kind of boyfriend girlfriend relationship because they found it awkward and were worried what i would have thought about them. But when we came back to college they apparently got back together. Now my problem is that i have always really liked this girl and so as you imagine seeing her with my best friend is not exactly the best thing ever. But the strange thing is that they dont seem to be very boyfriend-girlfriend like, i mean i still have never seen them kiss each other, i have only seen them shortly hold hands twice and i am the only one that actually knows they are together, they have not told any of our other friends yet. (this has all be going on for about a month and a half)But i dont know, i find it strange because i would really like to continue trying with this girl but i dont know, because she does not seem very interested in her boyfriend, i mean especially at the beginning shouldent a relationship be very enthusiastic? I mean we are all 19 years old, she never seems to talk about him as his boyfriend, she does try to spend a little more time alone with him but we as a trio spend more time together then them two alone. All three of us are young, liberal and not closed type of people so i dont understand why, if they truly feel boyfriend and girlfriend why dont they try to show it in anyway. And for both of them its not their first ever relationship so its not like everything is so new to them. And if they truly felt boyfriend-girlfriend why did they break off after their first kissing thinking that it was awkward and it would be strange for me? A relationship should go above friendships, i dont see why me being their friend should affect it much unless they dont find their relationship very important.Any suggestions on what to do? What could their relationship mean? Any type of help or suggestion what-so-ever?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Oooo dangerous teritory. No matter what happens here someone gets hurt. I would look around if I were you and try to find someone else to love because this situation could get explosive. There will be someone else with less complications and then it will be easy and clear.
Good luck
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