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writes:my best friend is messing my guy pal (who i really like) around and he is coming to me for suppport but i don't like it.she is always getting into scrapes with guys and wrecking their heads. she seems to always be leading them on by being too touchy feely with them and especially when she is hammered she hugs and kisses them.she met the guy through me but knew i liked him already as i had told all my friends about this nice guy i had become pals with last year.she says she doesn't like him but that he is chasing after here. the problem is i think he has really fallen for her.it is just like my best guy pal from college who a few years ago got messed around by the same girl and i swore i would never let this happen again, so i warned him off her but it was no use.i also said when he was messed about that i wouldn't be there for him but he came to me really upset.now i don't know what to do with either of them,if i tell her ot elave him alone she will think ots jealousy cos i would like him for myself.what would you do in this situation?!!?
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reader, Claire73  +, writes (19 August 2009):
I am going to be harsh here and maybe you wont like it but you asked for an answer so here it is. Leave it up to them both, you DO like him and that is what is annoying you. He is a big boy, if he wants to let her walk over him then thats his problem not yours. She may wreck guys heads but that is up to her and no matter how much you try and comfort him and be nice, if he doesnt want to be with you then nothing you will do will make a difference. You cant force someone to like you, he may be your friend but you know as well as i do that you do want to be with him and it is making you jealous, which is understandable. You are hoping that if you be nice then he will see you are the one for him, but this is not going to happen just because you want it to. If he wants to be with you he will, if he doesnt he wont, no amount of talking and caring in the world will make any difference. Let it go and find someone who wants you. I know its hard wanting someone and they dont feel the same. You cant make someone like you, just the same way no one could force you to like them if you didnt.
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