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*awgal
writes:Hi Me and my best friend had sex on many occasions and then we decided to stop and he even told me to I could join this forum he's a memeber of, which I did since I was into the same music as him, then all of a sudden about 3 weeks ago he says some really hurtful things about me to people on there like, I'm a psycho stalker, dilusional, fat and ugly, I never responded thinking that maybe he was just joking but it continued and when I called him out on it he said nothing. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks even though I have tried to talk to him, I have sent him one e-mail and 2 text messages, then I find out he wants to go to the same place as me on a night out and I call to which he doesn't pick up and then all I do is leave him a message on his myspace and within 10 mins of leaving it, he had deleted me off myspace and facebook he has even blocked me on MSN as well and now I don't know what to do, do I just leave him be and lose a friend or do I try and fight but make an enemy for life, I just don't know Any advice is welcome and in advance I would jus like to say thank you as well.
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reader, lawgal +, writes (31 March 2008):
lawgal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe only reason i contacted him when i found out we were goin to the same place was because before all this had started we had arranged to go together and i didnt want it to be akward and i want to know if he minded me going since we had already both got tickets in advance for it, thats all
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reader, amyblue  +, writes (31 March 2008):
My take on the situation - guys for the most part are very private, girls on the other hand generally are not. My guess is that when you two started hooking up he intended to keep it between the two of you and maybe he didnt vocalize that properly.
Perhaps he heard back from someone (especially if you have mutual friends on myspace where things spread like wildfire) that you had been talking about you guys hooking up and he felt uncomfortable. I only say this because I've had no less than six female friends go through this type of situation. What it boils down to in the end is that he was never really your friend, friends communicate and respect each other enough to be discreet and not post horrible insults about each other on the internet.
I think you should move on from him and take the high road (as in dont talk badly about him to anyone, dont message him, dont go to places you know that he will be - all these things only serve to show people that he is "right", even if you feel justified) it will be really hard at first but trust me, you'll get over him completely and the next time you have a "friend" who puts the moves on you should ask for a real date first.
I'm sorry this happened and I hope that everything works out okay.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 Hi there,
This all sounds very confusing. Maybe its because you are very upset, but the bottom line is if he is deleting you then don't contact him - ever. If you do you are merely confirming what he said about you stalking him.
why do you want to keep in contact with this man if he is saying these things about you anyway? Or is there something you are not telling us?
I ask this as you give a little clue in the last paragraph. You say that you found out that he is going to the same place as you so you call him. Why did you do this? This sounds a little bit obsessive to me, as you feel the need to contact him solely because he is going to be in the same place as you.
I hope you dont take this the wrong way, but this guy is not interested and you keep trying to contact him, so maybe he has a point by saying you wont leave him alone. O.K its rude to say what he did, but it wasnt meant for your eyes so he can say what he wants to his friends.
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