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*'Lyah
writes:Hi, I've been with my boyfriend going on 3yrs. and he use to tell me about his exes and the sexual experiences he's had even once said one of them gave better head than me but this third year in our relationship we got into an extreme argument, you know the kind where everthing you've done wrong comes out and he tells me I was his first. That those exes were made up and all the sexual experiences were from all the porn he watched. He said when he told me about the head thing it was to get me to work harder I'm not bad at it I just don't feel like choking on 9incher. I don't know what to believe, it's not the first time he's lied to me about things but this is supposedly a lie that's he started with me before we started dating and he said it's because I was experienced and he wanted me to like him. How that came into his brain as the best solution is beyond me. So I'm here asking is he still lying or what do y'all think because to be honest I have never felt so confused and unsure about someone in my life.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (22 April 2010):
 This is just my opinion but I'm not sure if you have been 100 percent honest with your story. Unless this guy is just a low-life pathetic loser, he might be embarrassed about having been a virgin for a long period of time. It's a fifty-fifty situation. No-one is right or wrong.
But I agree that it is a bit rude to deliberately compare your sexual efforts with his imaginary ex-girlfriends. You must never compare how people perform in bed.
I trust this advice has been of assistance to you.
The word "embarrassed" means feeling awkward or ashamed. He might be ashamed of himself in some way. Don't be too hard on him.
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reader, Babatunde Arogundade +, writes (17 April 2010):
Hi baby, forgive him. Its quite unfortunate that some guys are just too weak. It doesnt cost him anything to open up..but to be fair,he doesnt want to loose u. Thats why he came up with those lies to bring down ur ego. Call him up fuck him silly and tell him he doesnt match your Ex's
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reader, raiders +, writes (16 April 2010):
 wow, well guys always lie about being virgins because society has taught them that being a male virgin is not allow. But putting you down and trying to make you feel bad now that is not acceptable. You should feel comfortable with your partner and not be criticize for sexual performance you have perform on him. Turn the tables around now that he has confess he was a virgin and tell him you had better lover,,eye for an eye!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 If I was you I would dump his sorry a## right away. He lied to you for 3 years, and it's not like it was a white innocent lie. He lied right to your face, and to make it worse: he lied to make you feel small and not good enough (the blowjob lie). This says a whole lot about his character. He has insecurities, no morals, no respect for you, wants to talk you down shamelessly. And it kept on for 3 years without him having the slightest problem continuing the lie. This is a deal breaker. Why do you even wonder what to do? He has been using you to get sexual experience. If he tries to convince you of otherwise, why would you believe him? He is capable of lying about anything to get his will through. Do yourself a favour and ditc him hard and good, preferably with a slap in his face.
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reader, bruce lee +, writes (16 April 2010):
Well, this is weird. What I can't understand is why you have turned against him over something like this? Is it the lie that bothers you, or the head issue? This is a bit confusing for me as well. Maybe you should just tell him that if he wants head all the time, he will have to start being more respectful towards you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010): im guessing that he is now telling you the truth. i think it was an insecurity on his part and after 3 years he felt secure enough to tell you. mal
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reader, Polaroid93  +, writes (16 April 2010):
We can't posibly know but he has lied one way or another and once people start to lie unless they snap out of it pretty soon it seems to be a slippery slope!
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