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writes:Dear agony aunts and uncles, I'm 17 and I love my boyfriend (also 17) dearly. We have been together since January. Before we got together, we were really good friends and he regularly smoked cannabis. Since we have been together, he has given up on my wishes. Today he asked me if he could start smoking again. I cannot profess how much I hate cannabis, I already know of another boy in my year who has developed schizophrenia after repeated use. I know I cannot control my boyfriend, and I think perhaps I am being naive for thinking as long as we are together he won't smoke. I am especially worried as his father committed suicide in 2008 after developing suspected mental health problems (he was the man who introduced my boyfriend to cannabis). I don't know what to do..shall I believe what he says and stay with him? Or shall i leave or accept a cannabis addiction? Reply to this Question
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reader, WeCanDoIt +, writes (3 June 2011):
 I strongly think you should not accept his addiction, for both your health and his.
However I do think that you should talk with him about it. You can offer him advice, and anything like that.
I think you should also talk to him about his Father, and how you would not want him to die like his Father did.
But like I said before don't accept this.
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reader, Nooch  +, writes (3 June 2011):
Learn from my mistakes and find someone else. I married someone who smoked cannabis regularly and it was a huge mistake. You do not want to marry or have kids with this guy...trust me, kick him to the curb and find someone who has their act together.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 June 2011):
 i think you should have a zero tolerance policy with this if you are so against it. you are right to be concerned about the mental health implications of this drug, some (but not all) people develop schizophrenia exacerbated by cannabis, your boyfriend MIGHT NOT DO but is it really worth the gamble for you?? already his dad has committed suicide, your boyfriend may be then genetically predisposed to mental health problems also and when combined with weed, he is just a ticking time bomb.this is not just a little thing you disagree on, its major. think about the bigger picture. is this the sort of man you would want to have children with in the future? to share a home with? to trust with finances? you have only been together for a few months and already he is wanting to go back to smoking weed (that is assuming he ever really stopped) in short, out of all the millions of men in the world that you could be with, why settle for a pot head if its not what you want? tell him he has got a choice: cannabis or you. will you trust him though if he tells you he has packed it in?x
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reader, Tonywoodo +, writes (3 June 2011):
You shouldn't leave someone who you care deeply for just because he likes smoking cannabis, this comes down to weather you like him more than how much you hate, this is purely down to you
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